9.5 month old still wking several times a night for feed, please help me I am INSANE!

[EsmeWeatherwax]

Sorry for the drama...

My 9.5 mo is still waking several times a night for a bf. I am sure its pretty much just out of habit now, for at least the first couple of feeds. She gets plenty of food during the day, and usually has a couple of short naps. But she doesn't go for any longer than a couple of hours at night. I am nearly insane with tiredness after 9 months of this! And also turning into bitch mummy from hell for my 3 yr old.

I won't try cc, but am really at my wits end as to how to get her to sleep!

Can you get your DH to settle her in the night instead of you? If she knows that no milk will be forthcoming, she might stop bothering waking for it?

My dd is same age.I am still feeding her solids until 7 o clock.Make sure room is warm enough she has a free standing heater in her room as well as bag and tights under babygro.

Make sure the room is well aired before you put her down- it really helps them to sleep.
Other than that, I don't have any ideas.
DD is 12 mo and sleeps much better now- sometimes through the nightm sometimes wakes once-but at nine months was the same, bf non-stop.
I would put her down in her cot and then when she would wake up in the middle of the night, I would just take her to bed with me and she would just stay latched on whole night.
A couple of months ago I started putting her back and she sort of stopped waking up so much.
Also she's under a baby duvet now and the difference is astounding- growbag kept on twisting around her and I think that would wake her up/ prevented her from settling back to sleep if she couldn't stretch her legs etc. I think 9 mo is too young for duvet, though- but maybe worth a try in a couple of months.

My 9mdd was wanting 2 breastfeeds a night until 6 months when I decided to offer her a bottle of formula when she woke up for first feed. I figured if she was really hungry she'd have it but 3 days later she dropped the first feed. At Christmas I put her on a bottle completely and she dropped the 2nd feed within 3 days again and now sleeps through the night until 6am every night. I felt bad because I really believed breast is best but a happy Mummy is best too and my daughter also had 8 teeth and I was sick of enduring the pain . I don't think your daughter needs the feeds at night, try the bottle one feed at a time that way you know you're not starving her.

This sounds exactly like me a few weeks ago- I have just got my dd sleeping through the night (been about 4 weeks now so hoping we have cracked it!)

I started by getting her to settle when she was first put down- fed her till she was sleepy and then put her down- kept my arm on her so she settled quicker initially (she can manage without it now).

I started giving by her a dream feed at about 10.30ish.
Throughout the night- first 3 nights- I only fed her for 5 mins when she woke- next 3 nights- 3 mins- on the 5th night she started sleeping through- she had adjusted her feeding during the day by then. There were a few tears but nothing major!

This is just my experience- was a real shocker to have the incredible non sleeping baby after my first dd who was such a brill sleeper!!

We night-weaned at 6.5 months - DH just took over all the night-time stuff. Lots of cuddles and offered water, but no milk. Within about 10 days he slept through until about 5am most nights.

DS was the same as your DD I think - his sleeping was getting worse and it was really obvious breastfeeding was about comfort and habit rather than milk - he just couldn't fall back asleep without a feed when he stirred in the night. Once he got used to it, he slept fine.