And the answer, unfortunately, is not to let OH just get on with it; he works late and often does not come home until well after bedtime is supposed to happen.
She's always been difficult to get to sleep since we gave up BF at 10 months. Now at 19 months we've been through just about every way of trying to get her to sleep. She doesn't seem to settle well with pat/shush type things (seems to work her out more), cuddling to sleep did work for a while but now she tends to just chatter and be a pain in the bum for ages, tried CC in desperation and ended up with her just screaming when she was put anywhere near her cot.
Have spent half an hour cuddling, singing, rocking tonight and she's still as crazy as ever. She is tired, completely - yawning, eye rubbing, whingey. Ended up just popping her in her cot and leaving her 15 minutes ago. Have been up twice to pop her back down and tell her I love her. Now OH is home. He'll go up to her, give her a cuddle, say "DD do you want to go to sleep?", she'll say yes and lie down, go to sleep.
How did you get over this. It's driving me potty!