Help! 13week DD cried to sleep without dummy

[yummumto3girls]

Have 13 week DD no. 3. I wanted to start putting her to bed at 7 so that I can spend time with other children and some time with DH. She had been going to bed with bottle of formula (usually only takes a couple of ozs) at 10pm when I do. Breastfeed the rest of the time and DH does last feed. Has dummy during day but I have never allowed it to go to bed as bad experience with DD1 and falling out in night. DD3 always gone to sleep without dummy without too much fuss. Problem is that I have tried routine for last two nights (bath, breastfeed, cuddle and bed) and she will fall asleep in my arms but when I put her in cot she wakes up and I can't settle without dummy. Have tried shush pat but that just seems to make her angrier! Let het cry it out tonight, in my arms and in cot eventually gave into a quick suck of dummy before she fell asleep. Now feel terrible that she had to cry ( only about 10 mins) and that I gave in! What should I do?

If it was me I would use the dummy at this age and go cold turkey at about 4 months once better sleep trained (I don't mean cry it out, other methods at this age) but before they get to the stage of being really hard to wean off it.

I think perhaps the unsettledness (if that's a word) may also be because her routine needs changing. Babies have different body clocks to us and can get agitated if we do not adhere to their natural body rhythms on sleep. If you adjust wake up time, naps and bedtime she may also settle down easier you may find? But I only have 2 kids, so you're more of an expert than me I'd say...

Goodluck x

just give her the dummy.. reassess in a few weeks. Make sure she only has it for night time. sorry, but she may get lots of comfort from a dummy.

Thanks, I have a real dilemma with dummy. DD1 had dummy and was constantly having it, would fall out at night and then wake up! Gave it to father Xmas at 2 and that was that. DD 2 was a thumb sucker and at nearly 6 is still doing it! I hate the look of a dummy and am worried that if I use it for bed now then will be harder to stop. Thanks for your advice, each child is different so makes no difference it's no. 3! Will probably go with dummy until new routine cracked and then wean. Thanks feel better now!

Does she like taggy blankets? My best friend substituted the dummy for a taggy blanket and it WORKED! Her daughter sucks the tags now instead.

Although there is always a risk that they'll wake if they can't find that too?

I know where you're coming from - my 2 year old STILL has a dummy to sleep but my son is a thumb sucker and it's great!

She has a taggy but not yet holding things. Desperately trying to find her thumb so hopefully sooner rather than later!

I've personally always used a dummy, really don't see what the big deal if, let them have it for bedtimes and take it away when they can understand they are too big. My dd's are 10yrs and 4 yrs now, they're teeth are fine and they gave it up without a huge fuss.

My son could only find his thumb when napping on his tummy. I know you're not meant to but I was getting desperate and X2 good friends said it was the only way to settle their kids. (Don't tell anyone) I'll get lambasted now by all the MN's for confessing this

I never tell people on MN about it as it's not best practice. I used to check on him loads and loads but he was always fine. Anyway before I knew it he was rolling over onto his tummy anyway. But that was how he really started to suckle his thumb and get the hang of it, with his favourite little bunny's ear also in the same hand. I think that was a fluke though and would only work on my son. So don't try this at home people, as the saying goes

better a dummy than a thumb. When I was a teenager I had a friend who STILL sucked her thumb.

Dummies you can take away (currently watching Supernanny technique), thumbs you can't.

Gods, her teeth were awful.

My son wouldn't take a dummy, used to pull it out every time. Tried every make under the sun I reckon in the early days.

OP says that she uses a dummy sometimes teaandcakes.

OP - it may be a bit early for the bedtime routine.. just wondering.

Hope you get a good nights sleep tonight

I moved mine to a cot when he and she were clearly too big for moses basket. But neither of them enjoyed the transition.

What does OP mean? I've seen it on a lot of threads, think I'm being dumb here.

I know she says that she uses it sometimes though. I was just saying why my boy has his thumb. Clearly rambling again. Need some sleep I think

OP - original post(er)

Sorry - was terrified (!!!PFB!!!) of thumbsucking because of my random friend)
She's a bit odd though - probably still sucking on her thumb at 28...

Ahhhh... You're making me smile a lot. You're very funny.

Right time to get off here I think and stop hi-jacking the thread.

Sorry Yummum x