From co-sleeping to cot...How?!?!? :-S

[Ruthie22]

My DD is 10 months old and has been happily co-sleeping with us. We have now decided that, since she is sleeping through the night and no longer wakes to breastfeed, now would be a good time to get her into her cot.
Trouble is, she seems to 'know' when we are putting her in there, even when she is in the deepest of sleeps and screams blue murder!
I don't want to do controlled crying or anything else so extreme as I am more of an 'attachment parenting type'.
I'm hoping some of you will be able to offer some ideas of how to do it without too much stress (for us or her!).
I have looked at the arm's reach co-sleeping cot but she is able to sit/stand up etc so I don't think this would be suitable.
I think the only way is straight into her cot.

Any suggestions welcome!!
Thanks

how about taking the side off a regular cot and putting it next to your bed? might that work for you?

Could you try mattress on the floor in your room (may be easier to ease her onto this from your bed), and then after a while into her cot bed in her own room with the sides off (is it a cot bed?). My DS was in his cot bed at 16 months ish (though having said that he's back in our bed at 2.6yo....)

Thanks for replying - the side off the regular cot won't work for us as (against my suggestions) DP bought a cot that doesn't have drop down sides.
Might try the mattress thing, although not too sure how to do it - I read the No-cry sleep solution recently and it mentions something similar so maybe need to try that - one thing I am a little confused about is how do you get baby from the mattress into the cot when you have been doing that a while?

I suppose the theory is that they get used to being in same room as you, but not in bed with you, then you can move them into their own room/bed eventually. Makes the move more gradual so they (should) be more willing to accept it than cold turkey into own bed/room from yours.

Also, perhaps they get used to the smell and feel of their own mattress so more willing to accept sleeping on this in their own cot when you move the mattress back into their cot.

I'm trying to get DS2 (7 weeks) used to his cot at the moment so I don't end up with 2 of them in our bed for ever! DS1 never really took to his cot, but I'm not sure I can handle having 2 of them in my bed for too much longer! My DH has been shipped off to the spare room for a while and I would quite like him back in with me...

I hadn't thought of using her mattress actually - it seems to make sense though!
I have to say I love sharing a bed with her but as it is only a double it is a bit of a squeeze and she has a tendency to spread herself out but at least her snoring is quieter than DP's! I think he would be best going in the spare room until this is sorted too.
The funny thing is, she slept fine in the cot until she started teething and it has been impossible to get her back in there, she literally screams the house down!

Good luck with getting your youngest into his cot, otherwise you might need a bigger bed!

Mattresses on the floor as of this evening - have just got DD to sleep - on her own mattress (albeit, not in the cot) - so we will see how it goes!
Fingers crossed!

My DS1 was quite happy on the mattress on the floor for a while. Perhaps i should give it another go too! No room for a king sized bed unfortunately...

could you sell your current cot and invest in a bedside/dropside cot? They really are very good. I've managed to edge dd into it bit by bit over the last few weeks and now she happily sleeps in it. Still feeding her to sleep, sometimes by me leaning into her cot to settle her and sometimes just a regular feed sitting up then I place her in the cot next to me.

Another thing with dd is that after co-sleeping next to me and being fed to sleep, her favourite sleeping position is on her side. Perhaps yours is the same? Could you try placing her in her cot with a pillow behind her back ? It works like magic with mine - goes from flailing around and fussing on her back straight into deep sleep as soon as I roll her over

Hey thanks for all the idea ladies!
Thankfully we won't have to sell the current cot as we have managed to go from sleeping on mattresses on the floor (DD on her mattress) to her sleeping in her own cot!!

She wakes once in the night for a cuddle and I let her into our bed when she wakes after 5am which seems to be working!

LadyM you are absolutely right about her wanting to sleep on her side (and sometimes on her front) and the pillow does sometimes work.
I actually managed to get her back to sleep with a 'shhh' and a rub on the back the other day and put her in her cot when she was already asleep (on her front) without waking up - both of which seem trivial but are HUGE steps for us! Yay!