8mth still can't/won't self settle

[wellbalanced]

Ds nearly 9mth used to always fall sleep bf. At one point i tried the 'waking slightly when putting down' few month ago to try getting him to self settle but he would just go mad!

Now he either falls asleep on boob or needs/wants to be rocked.

He sleeps on his tummy so if i try put him down in cot to self settle he just thrashs about screaming the house down-turning over.

He has music which he likes but that makes no diff-he actuallt prob can't hear it due to screaming!!!

When wakes in night (usually just once) i tend to just cuddle/rock back.

Bedtime only takes 10-15mins but can't ever see him self settling-Is that a prob?

normal

Thats good, all my friends seem to have babies that go down awake.
DS never been great with sleeping for various reasons!!

normal

I'm still feeding DD to sleep at night (she's just turned one) and expect to be doing it for a little while yet. Her brother was a terrible sleeper, didn't settle himself etc. Then suddenly started sleeping like a log at 2yrs and has done ever since.

no, no problem at all.

Question to kalo12, RhinestoneCowgirl and thisisyesterday if you DC did not self settle did they sleep through or wake up frequently? Just my DS can't self settle at all and wakes on av every hour but just needs cuddle (in the right way) to go back to sleep....driving me round the bend and he's 12m which is a lot of missing sleep, although he did sleep better as a newborn!!

Sorry wellbalanced to hijack your thread a bit....

wakes up frequently needs a cuddle also, every couple of hours now - sometimes more frequent. we co sleep for ease now.

If babies were meant to sleep there wouldn't be so many books written about babies sleeping!

my sister has four kids, I complained about my non sleeping ds she told me

'babies don't sleep'
I asked her 'what can i do about it?'
she said 'nothing'

and that has freed me up now to stop worrying about it. I haven't had any sleep for two years, I work full time and I am preganant again so its definately survivable.

I cuddle ds back to sleep and he has just learnt the word cuddle so its'mummy cuddle!!!' all night long.

poor you. probably best just to worry about paying for eye bag and facelift surgery