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best time to move baby into own room??

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picklesrule · 21/12/2009 19:25

My 11 week old is in her cot in our room which works really well for us as I am bf and find it much easier plus I like having her near! But I was wondering generally when people have found is best to move them into their own room so that they are the least disrupted by the change?
I was planning to keep her in for at least 6 motnths but lots of people have been saying she will settle better moved before that..any experiences?

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Tizzyjacko · 21/12/2009 19:27

Do what feels right for you and ignore everyone else.

Seona1973 · 21/12/2009 19:54

I kept both dd and ds in our room till they were over 6 months especially as it is advised to keep them in the same room for the first 6 months to help prevent cot death. They were both around 8 months when they moved and they both settled in their own rooms with no problems.

Galena · 21/12/2009 20:39

DD is 8 months and will be moving into her own room when we're back from visiting family. I'm still bf and have made sure I've got a nice comfy chair in her room. However, I'm looking forward to having my own space back now - she always wakes for a feed about 10 minutes after I've gone up to bed, and I only assume it's because I disturb her somehow.

AnnamariaHun · 21/12/2009 20:43

We moved our son's crib into his room when he was 6wks due to him being too noisy (fidgeting)in his sleep and i kept picking him up thinking he wanted change/feed, it turned out that some babies are just noisy while asleep and ever since i've had the baby monitor on a low volume and we both sleep through the whole night, when he was about 10wks we put him in his cot and he seems happy in there too.

MrsMattie · 21/12/2009 20:45

Total believer in doing what feels right. DS stayed in our room until 7 months and DD until 10 months. WE moved them when they started being distracted rather than comforted by having us in the room with them!

MrsMattie · 21/12/2009 20:46

Sorry, that WE was random. I just meant We

rubyslippedonastraymincepie · 21/12/2009 20:51

DD is 11 weeks old and still feeding all night (well it feels like that!) so she is in with me and will be for the forseeable future

MyCatHasARedderNoseThanRudolph · 21/12/2009 21:02

DS is 10mths and will probably be going into his own room in a couple of weeks time (got a nasty cough and cold at the moment so I'll wait til he is well).

DD was about 11mths when she went into her own room.

I did what felt right for me. I BF and I found/find it easier at night (DS still has one feed aroun 11 - 12 and another around 4 -5 am) to have them near. I had people constantly telling me to move DD out of the room from 6 weeks but I stuck with what I wanted.

It is, though, recommended that they be in with you for 6 mths to reduce incidence of cot death, other than that, do what suits you.

TheWicketKeeperIsDown · 21/12/2009 21:50

Another vote for doing what's right for you. My DD is almost 9 months and went into her own room about 3 weeks ago once she was pretty much sleeping through and wasn't feeding overnight. I just didn't think it was worth the faff of traipsing about to feed her.

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picklesrule · 21/12/2009 22:25

Thanks for all the replies. I am definately planning to have her with me for 6 months at least, will just see how it goes after that I think..will prob depend on how much she is feeding at night as definately prefer not having to get out of bed properly to feed

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jellybeans · 21/12/2009 22:27

Mine were all our room and bed usually in much much longer than that. Whatever feels right.

hairymelons · 21/12/2009 22:29

I was planning on at least 6 months, but DS ended up going into his room at 4months because he'd outgrown his crib and we couldn't get the cot in our room. He was still in our bed most of the night at that point but was in by himself until first waking.
It was a bit wierd at first, I felt like he was too little to be all by himself in that room. It was nice being able to read/ watch tv in bed again though so it does have it's perks!

BeckyBendyLegs · 22/12/2009 11:50

DS1 was 12 weeks as he was such a sensative baby he woke every time we turned over and we couldn't take it any longer by then (waited until he was sleeping through)! DS2 was two years because we didn't have anywhere else to put him until he could go in a bed and share with DS1 - he slept like a dream though! DS3 - not sure yet as is only 5 1/2 weeks, at least six months I reckon.

annatw9 · 22/12/2009 14:19

we put our baby into his own cot and room at around 3.5 months -[ however his room is directly opposite ours, and with both doors open, it was like being in the same room really, we could also see him at all times. however, for us, it meant we could get a bit more sleep as it was slightly more quiet having hima few extra feet away. worked very well.

Quiltedrose · 27/12/2009 22:14

Ditto what Tizzy says.

We moved DD1 into her own room at 9 months - this was when we couldn't sit in bed with the light on and read our books or chat (yes, that's about as fun as it gets in our bed ) at night. However, she was also a very noisy baby at night until we put her to sleep on her front.

DD2 is 6 1/2 months now and I just love having her a few feet away in her cot. I'm also still breastfeeding at night. It's great because she never has to cry out to get us to come and see her so I think she feels very comforted by being close by and love seeing her gurgle and smile and kick her legs when she spots us. We haven't even discussed moving her into her own room yet, think we enjoy having her in ours too much

However I guess a time will come when she won't settle in our room and then it'll be time to move her out

My SIL put her ds in his own room from a few days old. Made me feel very sad inside TBH. Why have a baby if you don't want them close.

Rosebud05 · 27/12/2009 22:25

I'd also agree that it depends on both you and the baby. Our dd was in with us until she was a week off 6 months and varied between being an okay and dreadful sleeper, with the worst bit being 5-6 months. She always ended up in with me as she wouldn't settle in her cot and I got sick of waking up with a little finger up my nostril or in my ear! Moved her into her own room and she went from waking up loads and taking ages to settle to waking up once and going straight back down. Pretty soon she was sleeping through. I think it's pretty common for everyone to sleep better in separate rooms when they get past that tiny baby stage.

TheWicketKeeperIsDown · 27/12/2009 23:47

LOL Quiltedrose - that sums it up exactly! I knew it was time to think about The Big Move one night when trying to read my book under the covers with a torch and realised I was a prisoner in my own bedroom!

stuffedmk · 22/01/2010 12:16

DS was in his own room after about a week....he just settled better there. (I was bottle feeding though so probably slightly different to those that breast feed.
Had originally planned for him to be in with us for first few months.
Do what is right for you, nobody else can tell you.
I got some interesting comments from MIL which caused quite a rift for a while.
His room was across the hall and we had the monitor so it's not like we couldn't hear every move anyway.

HaveToWearHeels · 25/01/2010 22:46

We moved DD to own room at 10 weeks, after 2-3 nights she started sleeping through 12 hours. She was a figety baby and keep me awake and I kept thinking she needed feeding. I am also a fidget so I was waking her up. We don't have a baby monitor we just have both bedroom doors open. That was I can hear her if she needs me. I often wake up to her chatting to her self but she soon goes off again.

I did get a rather stern look from the HV when I told her

melgriff · 15/05/2010 21:25

We will have to move our 3.5 month out of his crib in our room into his cot in his room fairly soon as he's getting too big for the crib. Not really happy about the situation, even bought a travel cot to put in our room for him to sleep in for the next 2.5 months, but was then advised that travel cots are not recommended for long-term use. So I really have no choice but to move him to his own room. There will be tears on that day, believe me! But I guess the 6 month guidelines are infact just a guide, not manditory. And I'm not sure how you would prevent a baby dying from cot death if you are in the same room, wouldn't you just sleep through? Not nice thinking about it really.

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