2.4 years dd still not going to sleep alone

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Every night I have to fight to get my dd to bed. She sleeps in my bed and I have to stay with her untill she falls asleep. Then if she is in bed at a decent time like 8pm she will wake 1-2 hours later crying and again I have to stay with her untill she is fast asleep.

I know it is my fault, but I do need advice to get this problem sorted. I cannot put her in a room alone or even a bed alone as we share aroom and there is not enough space for her little bed in here.

When I put her to bed she always asks for the tv on. But I try to read her a story every night or I have to sing to her untill she is asleep.

please help this is hard work,...

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at this age you need to start havng to pop out for a minute or two so she gets the idea that you are coming back soon and can relax.

one of the reasons she takes so long to go to sleep is that she is not relaxing with you their is all a game.

you coul even start by just having to get of the bed for a few seconds to get something. keep reasuring her its ok and that you will be back.

then start making the trips longer and longer all the while reasuring that you are coming back.

you also need to make going to sleep boring, no lights, no talking, no smiling etc. its time for sleep.

I do leave her to get her a drink or sometimes for me to go to the toilet. but alot of the time she crys to come. I will give it a try...

I know exactly how you feel, I went through this with my son. He would cry going to his own bed and we had to wait til he was asleep before creeping out. Once asleep he would wake up and come into our room, we'd put him back screaming then wait until he fell back to sleep. It was hard work so gave in and had him in bed with us.

He is now finally in this own bed and room and sleeps all night, and not really sure how we did it! He seemed to realise it was better in his own bed.

We did try reassuring him when leaving the room that we'd be back and kept checking on him, but this only worked for a while!

I know it's tough, but i think she'll grow out of it like my son did (now 3) and bedtimes will be much easier.

Sorry can't be of more help!

get a timer and very gradually increase the time you are away.

i found it very difficult at first but one evening i just had to get things done and off to bed early as well. he grumbled a bit but i kept calling out reasuring.

from that night on he has been fine. absolute bloody miricle.