10.5 months, has never gone more than 4 hours

[ScaredOfEverything]

Hello everyone, Id love some advice, Im starting to go into serious sleep deprivation, and Im 14 weeks pregnant to boot!

My DD is 10.5 months. She is a great eater, she crawls, she recently even took a few steps. All in all delightful.

BUT. She does NOT sleep. Often she goes down easily, but she is waking every 2 hours minimum for the last 4 months (since I went back to work - coincidence?). She has never slept more than 4 hours in a row.

She is no longer BF and she still seems to drink a fair bit during the night.

Everyone tells me I have to try controlled crying. At the minute I dont let her cry really at all. However, now she can stand, and cant get down again, Im totally unconvinced it would work, even if I felt ok with it.

Id love some advice. THanks ladies.

xx

I suppose you've tried other methods e.g. gradual retreat?

I tried everything and eventually used controlled crying on my DD of the same age. It worked brilliantly and she slept through until she had a series of bugs, now we're back to square one and I am trying to psych myself up for more controlled crying. I really hated doing it. It will be harder this time around as I no longer see it as "a cure" but rather something that will work until she is next ill! But life is not much fun for any of us on so little sleep.

Both my boys were like this and didn't really go longer until about 11 or 12 months. DS1 didn't sleep through until 3 years (gasp).

I will never know whether CC would have worked in his case because I didn't try it, but he woke for a long time after we stopped feeds in the night so I'm not convinced it would have helped. He always went down fast, but just needed a grownup to reassure him and put him back to bed.

It did get a LOT better at 11/12 months with both of them - DS2 (almost 12 months) is just starting to go for 4-6 hours between feeds at night which is a major break through for us!

The only advice I can suggest is

1. Make your DH do as much as possible - can you divide the night into halves so you each get a good chunk of sleep?
2. Nap when she does during the day (when you're at home)
3. Co-sleep for at least some of the night if you find it helps - at least then you don't have to get up as much.

Good luck...