Co-sleeping with 6wk old, but I really don't want to!

[LadyMetroland]

DD is 6 weeks and the only way she will get to sleep at night is to be breastfed lying next to me, then eventually dropping off that way. If I then move away from her or move her away from me, she'll wake up. I have to go to bed ridiculously early as she gets really tired and grumpy in the evenings, but won't sleep anywhere except by me.

I really don't want to co-sleep (am doing it out of desperation), and I don't like her sleeping so close to me (we are almost tummy to tummy all night). How can I get her to sleep in a cot? And is this even safe?!! (she is in sleeping bag, I wear big dressing gown with duvet up to waist).

Hello, I had this problem with my DD2. We eventually invested in a bedside cot attachment that strapped to our bed so that she could sleep safely next to me. It was called the Bed Nest and it was great. Only thing is, it was very expensive and only lasted us until she was about 4 months old (although it has had a rich second-hand life|). If I was in the same position today I would probably buy instead something I have seen in the JoJoMaman Bebe catalkogue. It's like a folding box tha\t goes in between you \ad your partner at head level. Sorry, am not explaining very well and have toddler hitting keyboard, Will try to find a link.

found it- the snugglenest www.bloomingmarvellous.co.uk/product.aspx?CategoryID=practicalproducts&ProductID=89899PNK&language=e n-GB

My DD (who is now 4 months) had a similar problem- she would settle in her moses but after waking through the night would not resettle- we did a few things that worked

no1- in order to get her to initially settle in the moses
-put her for naps there during the day ensuring she can see you
-elevating the head side of the matress with some folded up towles

• making it smell of me- a muslim / t-shirt in there

-to be honest just being bloody minded and persevering when you have the energy- if you can get her to at least settle initially then it will get better quicker

• hotwater bottle in moses (taken out when you put her in)

no2- so she would go back in there

• ensuring that its warm enough- I was too paranoid about over heating
• moving the basket next to the bed and putting a hand on her stomach

plan of action for you- if you express and she takes a bottle- get your DH, Mum, Mate to take her for a few hours and get some sleep. Then when well rested persevere that night giving yourself the goal of her being happy to lie in the moses for 10 mins and give yourself small rewards

It does get better- honest

thanks everyone

may give the snugglenest a go, seeing as it's only 35 quid

The trouble is she is now so comfy being next to me, and having milk on tap, that why on earth would she want to move to a cot? I wouldn't! Really hope it's just a phase as dh haven't slept in same bed for ages - just not enough room for 3 of us.