I need to get 20 w/o DS a daytime nap routine, help! maybe???

[questions2008]

Please help! I feel as if I'm mostly muddling through the daytime with DS1 who is EBF.

He has a rough night time routine (bath, change, feed, sleep) that starts from 6:00-7:30 depending on what's been happening during the day. This kind of just happened on its own, i didn't engineer it so i guess that's why i'm not sure what should be happening during the day in terms of naps and how to make it happen as he's difficult to keep asleep during the day.

What should I be doing during the day? can i get him into a rough routine at this age, ie know roughly that around 11am, 2pm and 4pm he should have a nap or do i just keep going depending on the day and see if he gets one himself? how do you keep this up during the day if you go out?? this seems to be Ds's problem, as he gets so distracted when we're out he fights sleep and wakes up quickly, leaving him quite tired.

also, as he's waking up 3-6 times a night i'm still tired come morning so i keep feeding him and putting him to sleep til about 11am ish, in the hope of getting some more shut-eye! is this wrong, should i be waking up at 9, or earlier???

as you can tell from my rambling post, i have no idea what i'm doing here, so any advice/tips would be welcome!

Hi questions - I think you just do whatever works for you and your DS and if you're both happy to sleep on in the mornings then do it whilst you still can (before you know it you'll be enduring Balamory with a stiff cup of coffee and over-excited toddler at 6.20am!! ) At that age my DS could stay up for about 1.5-2 hours and would then be tired again (rubbing eyes, yawning, crying etc.) so he napped on and off all day, about four naps in all but no set times really. He wouldn't sleep for longer than 45 mins but this seemed to keep him topped up. If we were out and about he would snooze in the buggy for maybe 30 mins.

When they start to drop naps and stay awake for longer it gets easier to predict what they'll be doing when but even now at nearly 15 mo for us, it varies enormously.

HTH