6 week old not settling after nightime feed - HELP!

[Merlin]

Didn't have this with DS1 so guess I was lucky! DS2 usually settles without any problems after all his other feeds except his 3/3.30am one. Whatever I do he takes 2-3 hrs to settle by which time DS1 is getting up (an early riser unfortunately!!). DS2 winds, I check his nappy etc but the only way to settle him seems to be to have him in the bed with us, which I don't really want to get in the habit of doing.

Anyone got any tips? He has the feed in a darkened room, not much eye contact/talk etc, but he just will not go back in his crib. I'm getting very tired and cranky!!!!!

does he have a dummy?

yes ., but I think he gets frustrated when it falls out! Oh for him to be a bit older so he could just pop it back in himself!!

yes, my ds is the same with needing dummy popped back in.
I have to say i am lucky in that he is a good sleeper, but when he is being difficult to settle I swaddle him, put him in his cot and just hold my face to his cheek. He snuggles into me and seems to just be comforted by the fact I am there...
If he is overtired he often will cry when I put him down, but I do just sit there without saying anything and stroke his cheek etc and keep popping the dummy in!

He also has a soft blanky and a toy rabbit which he likes to hold onto!

thanks starlover - how old is your DS? I guess I'm impatient because DS1 was a brilliant sleeper - have to keep telling myself that every baby is different! Must try and be more patient, and persevere with the cheek stroking etc - I think I give up too soon, usually because I'm just so tired. DH seems to have a knack of getting him settled which just makes me even more frustrated!! A RL friend suggested putting a hot water bottle in the crib when I take him out for the feed just to keep it warm and cosy when he goes back in so shall try that one tonight.

he is 3 1/2 months.
patience is the key I think! and if DH has the knack them for goodness sake get him to do it!!!
DS was unsettled a bit this weekend as we were away from home and I found that giving him my t-shirt that I'd been wearing all day helped. He was still snuggled up to it in the morning!

As a Dad (sorry for being an interloper here...) I find that our DS won't go down of an evening unless his mattress is already warm - which I do by sitting on.

Now that I'm giving him his last feed (about 11 p.m. most nights) I get him to sleep by singing Wombling songs to him after feed, and then swaddle him in a swaddleme - usually he goes through 'til between 5 and 6 (touch wood) - he does hate going in to the Swaddle Me (doesn't like his arms being trapped) but soon settles down afterwards... (he's been doing this since about 4 weeks)...

Also during the day the Fisher Price Cradle Swing (proud owner of second hand one for 4 days now!) seems to do the trick...

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