controlled crying or pick up put down

[homedad]

help, i really need to sort my one year olds sleeping out, for the last 3 months he's been waking and wanted comforting sometimes up to 3 hours worth!!. i've been putting this down to a combination of getting over croup and teething but it isn't funny anymore, we both need more sleep, i'm not sure which method is best, any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I cant believe it! Basically started cc monday night with ds who is 8mths put him to bed tonight wide awake babbling, playing etc heard no cries for 15 mins went in to do 10min check and he was asleep on his tummy managed to turn him over and tuck him in. This is a baby who would only go down if I rocked him whilst bfing with the hairdryer going and then would wake twice during the night hopefully that wont happen 2night either.Touch wood ive cracked it and it wasnt as painful as I thought.

why did you turn him over, out of interest, Arrraaaggghhh?

Great thread. I am having trouble with my 5 month old who just won't go to sleep. SHe has always been a great sleeper, but I think she just finds the world so interesting now that she doesn't want to stop for a minute. She is the most inquisitive (nosy!!) child I have ever met. We have been at the end of our tether, but over the last few days have been doing controlled crying. No idea what all the theories etc are, but we were picking her up to calm her etc but no improvements. Tonight I decided she was not to be picked up, just patted and short chat until calm. Then left to cry for 10 minutes before checking and doing the same. We only had to go in 3 times tonight until she went to sleep. This is a HUGE improvement on teh last few weeks.

I don;t care what anyone says, but CC and PUPD is hideous. It is so emotionally draining and I really do feel guilty and sad. But, my DH has told me to think of it as this - it is selfish to hush the baby to sleep every night etc as it will not teach them the very important life skill of self soothing. It is selfish because it is only to save you the pain of seeing them sad. The best thing for your baby is to learn to self soothe in a supported way (controlled part), a skill that can be used in many situations later in life - e.g. stressful situations. This has really helped me put it into perspective. He made this theory up himself, but I do think it makes sense.