How to stop co-sleeping /bfeeding at night?

[nomorechoc]

we all really need some proper sleep now as my DS is 12 months and never slept thru the night - also i want to stop bfeeding - anyone have any expereince of the best way to do this? dont want to do controlled crying; not right for me and DS is an anxious sort
TIA

Have you tried reading The No-Cry Sleep Solution?

This is aimed at parents who feel controlled crying isn't for them and provides quite a gentle approach. I must confess it didn't totally work for me but there are some very good ideas in it and I know many people who swear it saved their sanity!!

I know what it's like to be desperate to give up BFing - my DS is 11mo and we're on one feed in the morning and one at night now, but this time last month he was feeding all through the night and would only have a nap if fed. I was in a bit of state through lack of sleep and I couldn't see an end in sight. Unfortunately, I can't help you because DH and I opted for controlled crying - he took over night duty, cuddled DS when really upset and proper CC the rest of the time. We started on the Friday and by Saturday he slept through, but of course this speed isn't necessarily typical!! I really was at the end of my tether and our lives are soooo much better now, it's amazing. But you have to be ready and prepared for this, so if you're not up for it, don't let anyone tell you that you have to do it. Plenty of people find other ways of doing it that are right for them.

Does he eat well? My friend gives her DS a very carby evening meal (mashed potato and pasta together - bleurgh!) to make him sleep and since she's been doing that he sleeps much longer at night - worth a try?
DD is 8 months and we've (so far) managed to train her out of waking up for a bf in the night. DH went in to her if she woke up and gave her water and after 4-5 days she didn't bother to wake up for a feed any more. We didn't do CC (thin walls) but she is in her own room, which helped.
Good luck, hope it helps a bit xxx