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Not sure how to deal with DD at the moment? Feel very guilty.

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JennyPenny22 · 25/05/2009 19:11

Basically, 2 nights ago, somehow the baby monitor ended up on mute. Not sure how as we never ever put it on that but can't do much about it now. DD1 is 17 months and still usually wakes in the night for a bottle of milk. So basically, that night, if she woke, nobody heard her and I have no idea how long she cried for . I feel awful about it but there is obviously nothing I can do about it.

Anyway, since then, she screams and screams at bedtime and really fights sleep. Last night we walked her round in the buggy for about an hour and she eventually fell asleep. This was a last resort though really as I definatly don't want to get in that habit.

The problem is, I have a 1 month old as well, who needs my attention so I can't be spending hours putting DD1 to bed. I just don't know what to do really. She is exhusted and won't do anything happily. She hasn't even had a bath because she was just too upset and wouldn't go near it (she knows bath means bed, but usually likes it).

I hate hearing her cry but at the moment, that is what she is doing because DD2 was getting very upset downstairs while I was trying to deal with her upstairs. Am now breastfeeding DD2 as I type.

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choufleur · 25/05/2009 19:36

couldn't your DP or someone else put DD1 to bed for a few nights to get back in the habit while you deal with DD2?

thisisyesterday · 25/05/2009 19:43

would it work if you lay down with her while she goes to sleep? that way you can also be feeding dd2 if necessarty

MIAonline · 25/05/2009 20:06

I agree with thisis, try laying down with her and feeding DD2. She has had a fright thinking you had left her and probably just needs to re-gain the security of knowing you will always be there. Hopefully it will pass, but you need to build her confidence back up.

JennyPenny22 · 25/05/2009 21:50

Chou - He works till 11pm, including today, otherwise we would have.

I tried staying in with her, but she kicked off before we even got close to her bed. I couldn't get her to lie down (without phsicallly restraining her!!). She just climbs out of bed screaming.

I even tried rocking her to sleep etc in my arms but she didn't even want to be anywhere near her bed. She knows as soon as we start going up the stairs where we are heading.

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thisisyesterday · 26/05/2009 19:05

will she go to sleep in your bed?

JennyPenny22 · 26/05/2009 19:12

I put her to bed early tonight, about 6.15pm instead of 7pm onwards. It seem to help that she wasn't overtired. She did cry when I put her in, but by the time I walked downstairs, she had stopped and went to sleep. She doesn't nap in the day so maybe a 6pm bedtime would be more suitable anyway? At the moment, she gets up somewhere between 8-10am anyway so its not like she is waking early! She gets so grumpy and overtired towards the end of the day. Doing things that much earlier made the whole bath/teeth/PJs routine a lot easier too.

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