co-sleeping safety and alcohol

[babyphat]

that fsids thread has got me feeling guilty - although as far as i can see there is nothing new in in and it doesn't add much to the far better studies done previously - it did give me a reminder of all the co-sleeping safety rules.

what i want to know is - do all you co-sleepers live a teetotal life until your children leave your beds? or do you drink in moderation and still co-sleep?

i admit i do still drink, but no more than one small bottle of beer or a small glass of wine, one and a half absolute maximum. this is normally an hour or two before bedtime as well so presumably it has at least started to leave my system by the time i go to bed. neither dp or i EVER drink to excess with her in the bed.

i was not worried by this, my dd is a big 8 month old not a tiny newborn, and i am still very alert to her (ie i always wake before she does for a feed, before she even starts rooting - she has never ever woken me up crying etc)

but now having read the thread and peoples' comments i wonder if i am being careless.

from the research as far as i can see it is heavy drinking that is implicated in sids cases, but i may be wrong.

i am not using mumsnet to justify my drinking/opt out of making a decision for myself, but am curious for peoples' honest opinions. am i being pfb even worrying about it, or are social services going to come and take my dd away?!

Yes, I'm teetotal.

Partly because of the SIDS risk, and partly because even one drink seems to affect my supply.

I rarely drink but if DH or I have had even one drink DS sleeps in his cot. To me it's not worth the risk however slight it is.

I didn't exclusively co-sleep, in as much every night I put DS2 in his cot to sleep - but by 2am feed he slept in with me.

I did have a glass of wine most nights and like you figured that by 2am it would be out of my system.

He is now a happy healthy 2 year old who still likes to get into bed at 6am.....

I did the same as you until recently, when DD moved into her own bed (she is 7mo).

same as you babyphat. But DH didn't sleep with us, partly because he would have had a lot more alcohol than one glass (i.e. the rest of the bottle) and partly because he "needed his sleep" and our bed was apparently too small. Worked out just fine!

I wouldn't have been at all happy having DH in the bed with us after he'd been drinking.

I had a glass or two of wine and co slept with Dd. I didn't ever doubt myself and if I had, I wouldn't have done it. I don't drink much anyway and two glasses was/are rare for me. I think it's a personal choice, but we(ourselves)have to live with any consequence that might occur. Don't we?