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How long does it take to get your baby/toddler to sleep?

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marne · 03/05/2005 20:44

Just took me an hour to get my 15 month old dd to sleep (thats quick).Sometimes it can take 2 hours or more.
I cant leave her to cry as she is throws up after 2 minutes so i have to sit on her floor until she nods off and then sneek out.

How long does it take to get yours to sleep,

Anybody got any tips please?

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Nemo1977 · 03/05/2005 21:34

is it possible to do a couple of nights of her only having water when she wakes as my son also used to wake expecting milk. It was horrible but after 3 nights he didnt wake again...

Nemo1977 · 03/05/2005 21:34

is it possible to do a couple of nights of her only having water when she wakes as my son also used to wake expecting milk. It was horrible but after 3 nights he didnt wake again...

Nemo1977 · 03/05/2005 21:34

is it possible to do a couple of nights of her only having water when she wakes as my son also used to wake expecting milk. It was horrible but after 3 nights he didnt wake again...

Nemo1977 · 03/05/2005 21:34

is it possible to do a couple of nights of her only having water when she wakes as my son also used to wake expecting milk. It was horrible but after 3 nights he didnt wake again...

Nemo1977 · 03/05/2005 21:34

oops sorry all

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marne · 03/05/2005 21:35

she only has milk before her nap and before sleep at night. She only goes to sleep if i give her a feed. Do you think i should try without the milk?

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marne · 03/05/2005 21:44

going to bed now, will try the water in the night and see what happens, thanks for the advice.

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WideWebWitch · 03/05/2005 21:49

She def doesn't need milk in the night, I agree, I'd stop that marne. Good luck. I think you and your dp need to discuss what you're going to do and do it. You need to be determined, as a friend said to me 'at least you're in charge, rather than her' and it did help to know we were both absolutely committed to sorting it out.

lilsmum · 03/05/2005 22:00

the most? about 20 mins, dd is 15 mth also, and she doesnt cry at all in the cot, just snuggles into her duvet and goes off, i do play her mobile for her twice and normally once that has played through twice she knows its sleep time and goes off.

tips...i havent really got any tbh, i guess i am just lucky.. but when she is ill, or has been teething in the past it hasnt been as easy as that (but thats not been very often)

actually thinking about it... i always thought the key to LO's going off easy at night is their naps in the day, dd normally wakes up around 7am then has her nap about 11am till 1pm any later than that and i am tempting fate with bedtime.

what times does your dd nap?

lilsmum · 03/05/2005 22:05

oopps you have already said, cant ya tell i didnt read the thread properly

them night feeds gotta go, for starters..my dd dropped the 3am feed around 8 weeks old, and i then continued dreamfeeding till around 9 mth, but i made sure she got her needed amount through the day, i cant even tell you how i managed to get dd into a good routine because i really dont think it was anything i did, as i said before i guess i was just lucky, sorry i cant be more help xx

lilsmum · 03/05/2005 22:06

the dreamfeeding i meant the 11pm feed, i stopped giving and dd just slept through

jessicasmummy · 03/05/2005 22:12

im having the same at the moment. jess is 9 months and a nightmare! Used to go down without a problem and wouldnt hear from her til 10pm for a feed and then possibly a dummy cry middle of the night and wake at 6.... she had to be snuggled to sleep tonight and has woken a few times but i think its crying in her sleep.
we still offer milk in the night because she wont take a lot during the day and its my way of knowing shes getting what she needs. will feed if she wakes but she only takes a mouthful or 2 and goes back rto sleep! HELP ME!

mumfor1sttime · 03/05/2005 22:37

I must be lucky[so far anyway] as my ds has slept through from 7 wks. I reduced the amount of milk I gave him each night,after a 7pm bed time he used to wake at 2am and 4.30am, over time he dropped the 2am feed and the 4.30am feed slowly moved to 6am. I also increased day time amount of feed. I learnt not to go to him straight away if he cried in night, he suprised us once by going back to sleep, which was brilliant. He is now 16 wks and has 4 x 8oz feeds a day and a very strict 6.30pm bed time. I have never believed in waking babies to feed them.

darlingbud · 03/05/2005 22:41

I am prob going to annoy everyone now but I have no probs with dd at all over sleeping. She is now 2.4 and has had a good bedtime routine since the year dot TBH.
Once she has her bath at about 6pm she knows that she won't be going back downstairs again. She gets out of the bath, ready for bed, into bed, stories, and then sleepy time. I can even leave her awake as she amuses herself until she falls to sleep either reading or talking to her toys etc.
Don't get me wrong I do have occasional nights where she is just not tired and will scream the house down but in those cases I settle her with a promise of another story then bed.
She doesn't have naps in the daytime anymore either which I think helps as she is really ready for bed come 7/7.30.

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marne · 04/05/2005 19:52

Shes gone straight to sleep tonight, only had a tiny bit of milk and then straight to sleep.
I tried giving her water instead of milk in the night, she wouldnt drink it and cried till she got some milk.
DH put her down for a nap at 11.00 this morning wich seems to of helped, i think 1.30 is maybe a bit late.
Fingers crossed we might have an easy night tonight.

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WideWebWitch · 04/05/2005 19:57

Marne, I know it's hard but imo you shouldn't have given in on the milk in the middle of the night - she's learned that if she screams you give in.

WideWebWitch · 04/05/2005 19:57

But I hope you have a good night tonight!

Whizzz · 04/05/2005 20:00

We did have to lie with DS & it could take anything from 10 - 45 mins. Now he is 4 we have got him a cabin bed (rather than the single he had) & since having that we made a big fuss that we can't get in it anymore & he's a big boy now. So all it takes is a couple of stories & a night night ! Can't believe we cracked it in 1 night !

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morningpaper · 04/05/2005 20:26

At around 18 months we started offering her music CDs and story tapes and CDs if she didn't feel tired. Had to be in bed at 7.30 though.

She is now 2.5 and takes between 5 minutes and 1.5 hours to get to sleep, but is always happy to lie in bed with books and toys - I pop in every 10 minutes or so to give her a kiss and check she's okay. She can still have music if she wants.

We have also stuck to the same boring evening routine every day since 1947.

LemonDrizzle · 04/05/2005 20:34

dare I say, about 5 minutes usually.

frankie26 · 04/05/2005 20:42

marne would agree with wickedwaterwich you need to stop this milk feed in the nite. stand firm be strong. Make sure she has a good milk feed before she goes to bed, recommend food tea around 5pm and milk around 7pm - 8oz or 9oz.

Donbean · 04/05/2005 20:45

EVENING....

frankie26 · 04/05/2005 20:56

evening chuck

Bozza · 04/05/2005 21:32

Definitely no middle of the night milk for a 15 month old. Either phase out gradually by watering down or just go straight to water. My DD is nearly 1 and took 5 mins tonight (5 secs last night but that was first day in toddler room at nursery ). She has a set routine of bath, milk, teeth, story, song and then knows its bedtime. In fact she generally has a bit of a winge as I close her story book up because she knows whats comign next!

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