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Don't actually know which "problem" to solve first...can you help?

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AddisonMontgomerySheppard · 10/05/2009 23:01

DS is 13.5 months old and used to sleep well but for the last three months he has ended up in our bed from around midnight. My parents and PILs are horrified by this and I would quite like to have a proper night's sleep all of us, though I do love snuggling up with DS in the night.

He used to wake 2 or 3 times a night wanting boob (and actually opening my top to get to them and once he reached a year, I slowly gave up breastfeeding and moved to bottles.

He now wakes 3 times a night between midnight and 5.30 to 6. I give him a bottle as a quick way back to sleep.

He eats quite well during the day so I'm sure this is just comfort/greed.

I have a wind-down routine, playtime, bathtime, stories (sometimes he'll watch In The Night Garden if his "lunchtime" nap has been quite late and he doesn't seem sleepy enough)

He goes to sleep in my arms (another "problem", I suppose, I would LOVE to leave the lullabies on and him settle himself...) and then I transfer him to his cot around 7.30.

He'll sometimes wake again around 9/10pm and need a quick cuddle to get back to sleep then in his cot.

Then any time between 11 and 1 he'll wake up and I'll generally bring him back to bed as it's easier and I know I can cuddle him easily and we'll all get some sleep.

I tried CC and PU/PD at 10 months but admit I am quite weak-willed - easy to do PU/PD at 7pm, much harder at 1am when he will just go straight back to sleep in my bed.....

Thanks for reading this far!

I guess what I wanna know is: -

Should we work on the milk drinking/sleeping through thing in our bed (and if so HOW?!) and then assume (!) the sleeping in his own bed will come?

OR can/do I need to do it all in one go? (again if so HOW?)

Again, thanks for reading. Any tips greatly appreciated.

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
FluffyBunnyGoneBad · 10/05/2009 23:06

tackle the one that's causing you the biggest problem first.

If he's disturbing your sleep for an unnecessary bottle then swap it to water. If he's messing about then he won't want it so will get the hint sooner or later.

He needs to fall asleep in his cot, not in your arms, this way he knows where he is and how to get back to sleep if he wakes in the night.

don't put him in yor bed, easy as it is, he needs to learn to sleep elsewhere.

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