My 20 month old will no longer settle himself.......

[littleboyblue]

Ds1 has always been pretty good at self settling since I started CC when he was just under 6 months.
Now when we try to leave the room, he goes crazy screaming.
He has recently been a bit poorly with high temps and some teething pain, so either me or dp have been laying on the floor whilst he falls asleep. Now I know ds1 is better, I want to stop this and get him to settle himself again.
I don't really want to do CC again because he is getting very distressed now, so I thought maybe sitting on floor instead of laying and gradually moving back a bit until I am sitting outside.........will this work? And do I move away a bit every few minutes, or a bit every night iyswim.
Is ds suffering seperation anxiety, and does anyone have any other ideas??
TIA

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I think it's quite common at this age - dd did it at about 18mo. We did gradual withdrawal, and it was very calm and lovely, and worked very well. Sat next to her for a couple of nights, then a bit further away for the next night, bit further. We made sure she seemed happy with one stage before moving to the next. We just read books (with booklight) or listened to radio with earphones. It was peaceful, happy for all concerned and worked really well.

Thanks Habbibu That's what I'm thinking, so the key is to move a bit further away by the night not by, lets say, 5 mins......I'm going to start it tomorrow

Yes, night by night - maybe not even every night, if you feel he's not quite happy. Make sure that you have tea/wine/book/radio so that it doesn't feel like a chore, but as a nice peaceful time.

DD is 2.5 and great about bed - her latest thing is listening to story CDs as she drops off. We really do have to get more - I don't think I can bear hearing Mog that many times...

Hahaha.
We have a lullaby(sp?) cd that ds listens to as he drops off, I too am getting very bored of it, every night for past 18 months.......
I can't read him a story at bedtime, he gets far too excited.

This is lovely, and much less irritating.

Not sure if I'm brave enough to change ds1's bedtime music but we have been looking for something for ds2. At the moment I am sitting with him whist he drifts off, he is 10 weeks and is still very colicky but once that passes, I plan to leave him awake and return as and when he gets whingy, so that might be useful