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Controlled Crying: For and Against

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boolean · 14/04/2009 21:57

DH and I are considering whether to try CC soon. DD is almost 6 months and too big for her crib. We have been co-sleeping for about a month but are planning to buy her a cot and move her into her own room soon, as we really want our bed/space back.

She will only settle if I get into bed with her and hold her hands, put in her dummy (repeating ad infinitum every time she spits it out or pulls it out, hence the hand-holding) and lie with her until she is sleeping. Naps in the day involve either the same, or holding and cuddling to sleep. She is still having one breastfeed at about 3am, but she wakes up several times a night and cannot settle herself down again, which is why we wonder if CC would work.

But we are open to other techniques as we haven't really tried anything yet, we have been waiting until we feel that she is old enough to move into her own cot/room. And we don't know whether it would work with the dummy, or whether we should combine it with getting rid altogether - she sucks her thumb when it falls out sometimes, so guess this would replace it.

We are list people, so I am trying to put together something which will help us weigh up whether CC is right for us - I am posting here for help/support/advice and any pros and cons I have not considered. TIA! x

For:
It seems to work!
I know that she has not been allowed to develop self-soothing skills, been too quick to step in etc.
Know when she is overtired as opposed to hungry, needs changing etc.
We are about to move her into her own room

Against:
Will it have any long-lasting emotional damage on her?
Is 6 months too young?
Can it be done if she still needs a night feed?
I am a bit scared - the prospect of leaving her crying for 15 minutes is dreadful, will a few nights trauma be worth it?
Is there something less hardcore we could try first?

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boolean · 16/04/2009 23:37

I've ordered Elizabeth Pantley from Amazon!

And going to buy a cot at the weekend, so last night of co-sleeping tomorrow, which makes me feel a bit sad. I am looking forward to having my bedroom back, but I do wonder for how long I will hold out if she keeps me up all night!?

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jenwyn · 17/04/2009 00:00

I was told by my health visitor that we should let our baby cry herself to sleep. She was a very inquisitive baby and liked to know what was going on at all times. I did what I was advised and lo and behold after several nights she slept through the night.

But she still cries at the drop of a hat and is still very inquisitive so sleeping is sometimes difficult.

She is 30 years old this year.

Parenting can be difficult

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