One year old wont sleep

[daintydinah]

My one year old grandson refuses to sleep in his cot. He will now only sleep if he is cradled..and when put into his cot, he wakes and screamsout as you walk away..we have to stand over him and keep patting his tummy.(so he knows your still there} this can go on for an hour or so. If he does falls asleep he can wake 3 or 4 times a night and eventually has to be taken into his parents bed.if they are to get any sleep a all! Its the same when he stays over with me..at least i dont have to go to work the next day.his mum and dad have to..and this is what worries me . We cannot let him scream during the night as it disturbs the neighbours. HELP PLEASE !

Hi. My son is one and is similar. We can't let him stay over with granny because he will only sleep in our bed. And yes he will only fall asleep if cuddled by one of us. And wakes 3 or 4 times a night. But we are putting up with it for the time being, because we feel it's better than letting him scream at night.

What precisely is the issue here? Does he NEED to stay over with you? Are mum and dad unhappy with the amount of sleep they are getting, or are they happy to put up with it for a while?

As a mum of a one-year old like this, I advise that you do NOT initiate any sort of sleep training without the parents being fully on board. Controlled crying could work - but as I say, only if it is a decision made by the whole family including parents.

hi,i usually have my grandson once,sometimes twice a week to give his parents a break and a good nights sleep! His mum has looked into several so called methods of aiding sleep.and has always asked me to work along side of them withwhch ever one they are using at the time. i have been more than happy to do this...But...when it comes to leaving him to scream four or five times a night for long periods...i cannot do it! He just gets so stressed as i do too. His parents always said they would never take him into their bed..and told me not to either. unfortunatly we have all had to do this for the sake of sleep and peace and a sleeping baby. But the big question is...are we letting ourselves in for a lot of trouble in the future and causing a delay in him being able to sleep on his own? I know this is causing a problem between his mum and dad as it is prventing them from sleeping together! Reading some of the threads and advice given makes the situation "fuzzy" as you havesome saying ..let them cry...then others saying dont let them cry..then there this pick up and put down thing..which i dont understand
How are you coping with this??

Your grandson and his parents are very lucky to have you. It sounds like you are doing a great job. Don't worry too much about storing up trouble for future. Babies need their sleep and who knows what tomorrow will bring anyway.

How am I coping? Well, I'm just accepting it now, to be honest. I have exhausted all the methods available to me that I'm prepared to try. I know I can try again in future if it all gets too much, and hopefully it'll have more chance of working then (I think that with teething, all bets are off where sleep is concerned).

Have you ever watched House of Tiny Tearaways? They often had sleep problems on there and I really liked the way the family was treated as a unit. Seemed to usually work, too.