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Anyone else's DC stay awake ALL night?

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chicaguapa · 04/04/2009 09:10

DD(7) is on a mission to stay awake all night. And manages it. It first started on Weds when she came in on Thurs morning and proudly announced that she'd been awake all night. Then promptly fell asleep in the car on the way to school. So we took her home, feeling that it wasn't the school's responsibility to look after a 7 year old who'd not slept all night.

Thurs night she said she was going to do it again so obviously we tried to reason with her, explain the consequences; that she'd be in trouble at school, might lose her place on the school council, would miss her skiing lesson etc. All to no avail. Me & DH tried to make her go to sleep (do as you are told etc) and eventually gave up at 4.30am and went to sleep ourselves. Obviously she fell asleep again on the way to school and we brought her home.

We've both spoken to her at length, is there anything bothering her?, is she trying to get out of school? etc. But she says she's just doing it to see if she can and because she likes being awake at night when everyone else is asleep! To be honest at first we thought she might be ill and that's why she was awake but it does seem to be sheer willpower.

So we figured that if we couldn't actually stop her doing it, we'd make her feel she was allowed to do it, so we didn't appear to have a complete lack of control! So we laid down some ground rules; no disturbing anyone else and no playing her DS or reading, in the hope that she'd bore herself to sleep. So she literally sat all last night and watched the clock!! And is running around this morning, as bright as a button.

I know she hasn't been asleep as both DH and I have woken in the night and gone to see if she was asleep and she's been sat up in bed just staring at the clock.

Obviously we're hoping that it's going to be a short-lived phase but really don't know what to do. Anyone else been through this?

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deanychip · 04/04/2009 09:14

leave her to it.
its half term so no school to worry about.

she will die a thousand deaths when she is a teanager and you say to her..."do you remember when ...."!!!

Kids are strange are they not!
Mine has funny times like this.

Hassled · 04/04/2009 09:15

No turning the car around on the way to school. As it stands, there are no consequences for her actions - leave it, and she'll be quite happy nocturnal. She's only physically able to stay awake all night because you're letting her sleep in the day.

I appreciate it's the school hols now, but I think you need to resign yourself to a day or two of hell and insist that she goes along on whatever activity is planned. If she sleeps in the car, wake her once you arrive whenever, and insist she carries on. It sounds ruthless, and it won't be pleasant, but I can't see how else you're going to crack it.

chicaguapa · 04/04/2009 09:24

Sounds like good advice. When DH took her to school, he couldn't actually wake her up so would have had to carry her in. We didn't feel that was fair on the school. We have withdrawn all priviledges and she IS upset about those. But clearly not enough to make any kind of difference.

But now it's the holidays it's different. She isn't asleep now so we'll have to keep her awake and explain that if she wants to sleep, she'll have to do it at night time.

Wish me luck!

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jammietart · 04/04/2009 13:19

the Ferber book covers most child sleep disorders and i remember finding the older child bits quite fascinating and not at all what i would think of to solve certain problems. it sounds like you have a plan of action atm but if it gets chronic it might be worth a look at the book or post again and i'll look for you!
Good luck

chicaguapa · 06/04/2009 20:27

Well we kept her up all day and then settled her down at 6pm for DVD night in a dark living room with a blanket and warm milk. She was too tired to argue and fell asleep almost immediately. And then slept for 14 hours!

Last night she thought about staying up all night again but I think she experienced the child equivalent of her heart sinking and she just went to sleep without any fuss.

So it all blew over and I feel that the mix of giving it our blessing and keeping her awake the next day was the key.

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