swaddling....and dummy!

[GirlWithTheMouseyHair]

I failed our attempt at going cold turkey on the dummy, I said we'd give it 2 weeks, we did, DS started to settle himself for bed but naptimes were getting worse and worse with him screaming for up to half an hour for every one, decided it just wasn't worth it and we'll try again in a month or two.

Trouble is we've become lazy now the dummy's bakc, he has it for every nap AND bedtime now (though isn't waking for it...yet). Someone tell me this is ok (he's nearly 20weeks) and to stop stressing about it

Other thing is he is still swaddled for most naps and bedtimes - we try putting him donw wihtout at first and sometimes it's fine, others he gets into his usual overtired frantic self and it calms him enough to leep. Developmentally, is it still ok to swaddle at this age? I do appreciate that by swaddling we're not giving him a chance to find his dummy and fingers in the night to resettle himself as well

We went cold turkey at about 20 weeks with the dummy and the swaddle. It was getting so bad that she couldn't settle and we were up and down constantly for naps and during the night. We did a bit of controlled crying (The Sleepeasy Solution) and had about 3 really bad nights. However, it worked and she now settles without the dummy or swaddle. We have given her a muslin to cuddle instead.

If its not a problem for you, then its not a problem.

You could try de-swaddling gently, i.e. first try it with just one arm out and see how it goes, then progress onto two arms out? We did this with DS and he transitioned quite well - we also put him in a grobag as well to get him used to it. However AFAIK swaddling at that age is fine.

Sorry I have no dummy advice - we ditched them at 6 weeks when they were getting a nightmare, we went cold turkey, it wa spainful for about 2 days then he forgot about them but he was quite young.

Good luck!

hugs to you. I didn't worry about the dummy, issue, I just decided to be tough and ONLY use it at nap/sleep times, not other times.. you might find that restriction helps. then when my little one got older, I then conveniently 'lost' it, and introduced a special 'toy' for bedtime.. he asked for it a few nights, but no major issues.
still fine to swaddle!!! some people do exteneded swaddling up to a year or more! My issue was when my little man started escaping all night and NOT sleeping well.. we got a Peke Moe sleep sack to transition (keeps their hands inside the sleeping bag) that worked really well for us.
all the best to you!!! xx

thanks all....so far we're not having to get up for either though if we do, we'll have to attempt dummy ditching again. just wanted to make sure it's still ok to swaddle

Hi Girl With the Mousy Hair. Don't say "Fail" !!! Just "didn't work out".

Could you use a sleeping bag like a grobag instead. It would at least be nice and cosy and give your son the chance to fnd his fingers. Great if he's not waking up for the dummy now. I still stand by introducing a sleepytot at this age. Get him used to having a comforter and if he does start waking for the dummy, at least you have a ready made solution. Whatever happens, enjoy your time. I was looking at my 2.5 year old yesterday and wondering where the time went!