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Frequent night wakings in nearly 4 y.o.

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tkband3 · 11/02/2009 10:24

When DT2 first came out of nappies at night, she carried on sleeping through. After a couple of months she started getting up to do a wee every so often - no problem, I can't go all night without going to the loo, so fair enough . But recently, she's started getting up 3 or 4 times a night and always says she's had a bad dream. She comes into our room, and waits for me to wake up, then I take her for a wee (just in case) and put her back to bed. She's a bit of a mummy's girl, so if DH does happen to wake up and take her instead, she cries until I get up and give her a cuddle.

The thing is, I'm a bit dubious about all these 'bad dreams' and think that more often than not, she's just waking up and thinking 'oh I'll go and see mummy and she'll bring me back to bed and give me a cuddle, that'll be nice' . But I can't bear the thought of getting too draconian about it all by forcing her to accept DH putting her back to bed, with the inevitable crying (and therefore waking up DT1 and DD1). If she is having bad dreams then of course I want her to come to me for a comforting cuddle.

We've tried sticker charts and other sorts of incentives for not getting up in the night, but she's not easily swayed by bribery rewards, unfortunately. I suppose I'm just looking for reassurance that it's just a phase and she'll grow out of it soon .

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tkband3 · 11/02/2009 13:27

Hopeful bump .

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Mumfun · 17/02/2009 12:47

Not much help sorry but getting this with DD. I was kind at first and took her to bed with me as very distressed, then got harder as it went on night after night. Then night before last her jaw was genuinely shaking with fright so took her to bed again last night.

Things is DD is genuinely scared but a couple of nights didnt seem too bad and I was right to keep her in her own bed and get her cuddly toys to keep her safe.

Not really sure what next. Going away for 3 days in a room together so hoping the change might put her right.

theLoneFeeder · 17/02/2009 14:04

No advice, I'm afraid, but watching this thread in the hope that someone else will have some miracle cure!!! DS1 is doing the same and frequently ends up in our bed.

DH decided last night to do 'controlled crying' with him. It didn't go too well and I ended up crying after listening to DS1...'Remember Mummy, sob, I, sob, love, sob, you, sob, sooo much' over and over again!!! It was truly heartbreakinig, so we ended up with him back in our bed again.

Anyway...sorry for the ramble...sits back with cuppa and waits for some sleep gurus to come along...

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