Help! Urgently need to get DS out of my bed

[oldnewmummy]

Ds has just turned 2.

From birth to 1 he slept OKish in his cot. Then we had 3 months of constant waking, so for about 10 months now he's been put to sleep and sleeps in our bed.

I don't regret this. He was adopted at 1 day old (we're overseas) and when I discussed this with an adoption psychologist she said his brain had probably developed enough by that age to know that he needed comfort and that this was providing it. Since my husband claims I snore (which I deny) he usually sleeps in the spare room, so it's just me and DS.

BUT I need to go into hospital for an operation on a repeat abdominal hernia in about 3 months. So I won't be at home to sleep with him for probably 4 nights, plus he can't sleep with me after that in case he kicks me.

So I need a gentle way of getting him back into his own room (ideally) or cot; don't want to distress him with any leaving him to cry himself to sleep approach.

Ideas please?

Will he sleep with your husband instead of you? Could your husband endure a few nights of your (imaginary) snoring and stay in the bed so he gets used to having both of you, and then try with you in the spare room for a bit? I appreciate that this doesn't exactly get him out of your bed, but perhaps easier in the short term, given that there's a deadline to this.

Or could you get him a big enough bed that you can go into his bed with him (rather than him being in yours iyswim), and try gradually moving to a separate mattress on the floor, etc etc.