Can anyone help? My 3 yr old constantly gets up in the night for no reason

[carameltimtam]

My 3 yr old is constantly getting up in the night and coming into our bedroom. She doesn't seem to want anything because as soon as she sees one of us get up to take her back to bed she turns and gets into her bedroom herself. She however won't settle until we have tucked up back up. She doesn't want any kind of conversation or anything. It can be up to 5 times a night and we are exhausted! Can anyone give any tips as how to stop this. She sleeps with a night light plus the door is open and the light is on in the bathroom. Its not nightmares as when she has those sometimes its a very different reaction. PLse help!!!

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just get up and put back to bed. its the only solution.

My dd was treated by a cranial osteopath for this just as she turned 4 and it helped a lot.

i have been quite strict when this happens- unless you are ill or hurt or sad or scared please dont come into our room. it has worked so far!

Mine would always come asking if it was morning yet! However I was concerned because it means that she wasn't sleeping deeply most nights. If I told my dd to go back to bed she would, I didn't need to do anything.

Thanks everyone. I guess we just continue doing what we are doing which is all of the above! I guess the break through would be dd putting herself back to bed then she will learn how to settle herself when she does wake up. Happy sleeping!

We had the same thing about 3 or 4 months ago with DS1, around the time he turned 3. Things that worked for us: florescent stars on the ceiling, a torch, and a star chart - seven nights without disturbing us = packet of buttons. Or something like that. It is probably just a stage, so hang on in there.

my ds goes through stages of this. we put a star chart up beside his bed and give him a big chat at bedtime about not coming through. he gets a treat after a certain number of stars. (anything from a sweet / lolly / choc to magazine or small toy - he is easily pleased).

this works for a while then we need to do it again. it's very frustrating to still be having broken sleep when they are that age. sympathies.

My DS has been doing it for a while, we don't realise he is in bed with us till a few hours later. Hes very sneaky. By then its too late to take him back to his own bed. Would a stair gate across his bedroom be the solution? Don't know he i could stand the controlled crying again.

I have never tried a star chart but that might be a really good idea. Thank you. DS is very tall for her age so she would sadly just hurdle a stair gate!! There is one thing that is slightly strange is that in the morning she asks whether she has stayed in bed. When we say no she didn't then she gets really upset. I really don't think that she is sleep walking though because she is far to with it during the night. She doesn't seem in a sleep. Also from all your encouraging replies it seems as though it is quite a common occurrence at this age and just a stage to get through!