Poll - Do you wait for your baby to actually CRY at night before getting up to feed them?

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Reason I ask is that I am woken by the slightest murmer (would put them in their own room with baby monitor to make it easier but DD2 has reflux and am worried about her puking in her bed (she has done before).
I sometime try to lie there and just get back to sleep while she shuffles about thinking to myself - "wait for her to cry" but end up lying there for ages then getting up and assuming the shuffles means she is awake and hungry (I then get her up anyway and often find she is neither).

Am a crap sleeper. Should I really be waiting for her to cry?

I dont feed a shuffle but I feed a whimper

but with the reflux I dont blame you for what you are doing

I co sleep and feed at shuffles and snorts. Sometimes you can sense it's just a little shuffle, but normally you can sense DS is on the scrounge How old is DD?

I always fed at the first shuffle.

It just meant that both her and me could get back to sleep more quickly.

My ds had reflux and we had to prop up matress and cradle so he was sleeping at abit of an angle

no, never waited for her to cry - she was in cot next to bed and I woke when she started to stir. Much better to feed before they get upset, imo. But do you mean she is shuffling around after you have fed her?

used to feed at first whimper, but realised a few weeks ago that DS was just inbetween sleep cycles and he would sometimes nod off again if either ignored or shhhed from the bed.
we managed at a stroke to eliminate a night feed like this.

we now tend to wait for him to actually cry, but pick him up the second he does cry properly.

Yes, I'm with Hopefully. Mine were noisy little boggers and snuffled all might long... they often went back to sleep on their own.

Ditto hopefully - after spending the first few weeks of picking DS up at his first whimper we stopped and waited for an actual cry which was sometimes an hour later - of course I was awake during his whimpers but I think by leaving him to naturally push himself later it helped to move the night feed forward.

A few nights ago I jumped out of bed when he started crying (4.30am) but by the time I had gone to the toilet then to his room he had stopped so I left him and apart from another 1-2 min cry at 5am he didn't wake till 6.30!

DS is a noisy bugger so we have put him in his own room as I think we were disturbing each other sleep, but I understand you are concerned abour the reflux.

I am a very sound sleeper and only woke when DS cried I'm afraid.

At first we fed at every shuffle/ whimper/ snort. Gradually we moved to only feeding for crying and within weeks DS, now 8 months, started to sleep through and now regularly goes 7-7 (this morning 8 - hooray!)

I realised that DDs little snuffles didn't necessarily mean she was awake, just in a lighter sleep. But I always used to wake up, so until we put her in her own room at 4 months, or so, I used foam earplugs . I could easily hear if she woke properly or cried, but got a more restful night. I did only ever do this if DH was in bed with me though.

I waited for not-going-away whimpers but not actual cry or she'd take ages to get back to sleep

i tend to wake just before she does, she is normally turning her head from side to side with mouth open, so i feed. if she was just wriggling i would probably wait to see if she settled