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Pah, I am so depressed by this latest turn of events! Any advice?

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Hopefully · 17/01/2009 08:10

DS is 17+3 weeks. He went through a massive growth spurt about 10 days ago, where he was taking an extra 3-4 feeds in the day, and went from usually sleeping from 10:30 feed through to 7am to waking at 3 and 6am.

Now he is happily back to feeding 3-4 hourly during the day (as he did before spurt), but is continuing to wake at 3am and 5:30am (virtually to the minute) every night. i have tried feeding earlier and later at the 10:30 feed, and he still wakes at the same time.

He is breastfed, but has formula for his first night feed (the 3am one).

For the last two nights, he has had an extra 2 oz at this feed (was having 4oz, now having 6), and it has made absolutely no difference, he is still waking at 5:30am. For the past two days I have also given him extra feeds during the day in the hope of getting some extra calories into him, which has made no difference. When he wakes at 5:40, he feeds for literally 5-10 mins before conking out (he is a supremely slow feeder, usually taking 45 mins for a feed, so I am positive he is not getting anything close to a full feed at this time).
Unfortunately he also conks out into a very light sleep, so I cannot get him back into his cot - the only way I can keep him asleep is to bounce him in his bouncy chair until 7/7:30am (he wakes when i stop bouncing, he doesn't wake up hungry - I can keep bouncing till 8am if I want!). if I stop, he wakes. This means I am getting a grand total of 5.5 hours sleep a night!

If I felt he was actually hungry at this time, and was taking a full feed, I would have absolutely no problem with the waking - I am not interested in 'forcing' him to go through the night. however, i really don't think he is waking hungry.

I am thinking that perhaps he is struggling to resettle when he wakes, and I'm wondering whether I should try harder with settling him in his cot (currently he settles in his cot for his morning nap every day, but the rest of his sleeps are either in the pram or on us, and in the night I hold him till he's asleep and then pop him in the cot).
House is definitely not too cold - we are lucky to live in a nice and cosy house which doesn't drop below 17 degrees at night (thermometer tells us max and min temp).

So, would you begin to be a bit firmer about trying to resettle him at 5:30 without a feed? Or trying to resettle him for a little bit before the 3am feed? And does anyone think settling in the cot might improve things?

Whatever we attempt we won't do until late next week, as we have a free weekend so can nap during the day, so am giving him maximum time to sort himself out.

Any ideas much appreciated.

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ilove · 17/01/2009 08:26

Iin the night I hold him till he is asleep then pop him in the cot" is the line that jumps out at me...

He needs to learn to go to sleep on his own, and the only way to do this is to put him into his cot awake.

lovelymama · 17/01/2009 14:02

17 weeks is when my very good sleeper (slept from 6pm-4pm, quick feed then back to sleep til 6.30am) turned in to a horrible sleeper. After about a million hours of internet research I found out about the 4 month sleep regression. Google it and you'll see that loads of babies have a sleep regression at this age. DS woke about 7 times a night for about 6 weeks (his regression lasted longer than most!) but then things did improve. Not sure if there's anything you can do - they are so young it's too early for sleep training and exhaustion on your part just makes you use any tool to get them back to sleep...be it feeding/rocking/patting. It's a tough time but it will get better

Hopefully · 17/01/2009 20:52

think we're going to attempt to settle him in the cot awake after his feeds (he isn't a nightmare to settle by any means, just a bit slower to sleep). we're also going to stop jumping at the first grizzle (DP admitted he sometimes picks him up and realises he's still pretty much asleep), and offer a couple of extra feeds in the day to try to fill him up.

I figure we won't try any sleep training till we've had a good couple of weeks of trying this, and then we'll reassess and take it from there.

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StarlightMcKenzie · 17/01/2009 20:57

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