Has anyone successfully stopped cosleeping with their toddler?

[Pinkjenny]

Anyone?

My DD (age 9) still asks if she can come in with us at night. She is very occasionally let in, but both my DH and I feel she is getting to 'that age' and if she is in our bed, he moves out for the night. It's a very rare occasion, but is obviously still special to her. Soon she won't want to any more

Jaysus.

Pinkjenny, will be watching this thread with desperation interest

I came on this thread to get the answer to the impossible task only to find its your thread Jen! Lets hope some marvellous soul has the answers we require. Just remember, at least you don't have no3 on the way, with no2 still in the bed!

Hi gorgeous - no this is true. But trying to have no2 is the whole reason I need no1 out of the bed. Oh, and so I don't have to go to bed at 9pm every night!

We have to make a plan to meet up.

RoRo - I'm so so so glad you're in the same boat. Misery loves company, don't you know!

Yes Jen, we do! Luckily DS goes down in his own bed for an hour or two and there lay our window of opportunity. Last night DH slept on the sofa and DS slept from 1.30 ish til 7, now that is unprecedented! I think I need DH to sleep downstairs every night.

yes I stopped co-sleeping with dd2 who was then aged two and a half. It was relatively painless.

Did I already tell you this on a previous thread? I seem to remember typing this for someoneanyway I can repeat myself:

We moved her into a bed in with her sister. For the first few nights either dh or I slept in with her, then we slept in another bed in her room, and gradually we retreated from her room over the course of about a week. We always went into her as soon as she woke up, and now she goes to sleep fine on her own and sleeps through.

Belgo - I have asked this question once or twice before.

No, not yet. I have just stopped co sleeping with my 5yo, it has been Ok, he falls asleep in his own bed with me and baby 'seeing him off' as it were - then sleeps through till early am (3am, 4am so far) and comes in with us.
Brilliant - I don't need to get up in the night!!!

Might put ds2 in with big bro when he's a bit younger than 5, though...

Btw I tried a few times when he was 2, 3...hopeless. No good at all!

He's ready now..

It's not so much the night time, as the getting to sleep part. But last night was horrendous.

Hmm. Well, my mother thought I should have persevered the first time, but actually ds was just a bit insecure and not a great sleeper. Now he is just ready. Like with everything else - eating, potty training - one day he just did it, and never really looked back.

Are you really having trouble having him in your bed?

I think she is starting to see it as a big game really, rather than bedtime. Possibly as I let her watch tv before going to sleep.

It's like I know what I'm doing wrong, but feel powerless to stop it. Very odd.

Sorry, she, not he! arghh
yes I understand that feeling. I thnink it is called extreme exhaustion to the point where you give up

I'm probably telling you things you already know but here are the principles:
bedtime routine:
bath, story, lulluby and bed (night light on in bedroom): be firm and consistent, keep your voice low, aviod too much eye contact when they are getting sleepy, plenty of reassurance and patience but be firm: 'it's time for bed, it's time for sleep'.

It does work, I promise, but may take some perseverence