DD2 (26 mths) now into big bed. The first night she didn't get out after we went downstairs eventually went back to sleep after going in two times. Woke during the night at 3, 4 and 5. Each time I went in said shssh back to sleep tucked in and left. Did not attempt to get out of bed. Second night slept through no night wakings. Last night different story. Asleep by 7.35 as had no daytime nap. I was woke by a thud and little footsteps in the landing looked at the clock - it was 4.55. I did read that if they do this then walk them back to their bed with no interaction. This did not work. As I took DD by the hand and said shssh back to bed she went ballistic. I had to lift her to get her back she immediately jumped back out before I had left the room. This happened 3 times hysterical (still not managing to get out of the room). I then got her back in and stood in the room facing the door saying nothing. I did this for 30 mins. Meanwhile a lot of fidgeting and tossing and then she said mummy you still there and then started to talk to herself. I said shssh back to sleep. After realising this was not working I attempted to move back into my room and said go to sleep mummy's right here. DD cried mummy mummy for about 40 mins. Meanwhile DH (well not so dear as I could throttle him ATM) he is not willing to lose any sleep and I am not getting much support if he is lying there puffing and sighing. He then said this isn't fair on Natalie (DD1) I said well she can lie in if she needs to then he said well it's not fair on me. Im afraid I then said #@*& off and went into DD's room - tucked her in and put more toys round her said you must go to sleep, i'm right in my room, everyone is sleeping o.k. She then said ok and I slipped back into my room. She then went over and this was about 6.20 and then I woke her at 8.15. Oh please anyone I can't have this every night. She was so determined crying out for me I imagine she could go on for a longgg time.
Today we (I) managed a nap in her bed. Tucked her in. She did climb out and got a book and started reading it in bed. I stayed upstairs, tidying etc. and eventually after about half an hour she went over.
Please please anyone am I doing this right. Is controlled crying not going to work with her. WI/WO is not going to work now she knows she can get out herself.
I feel that I am doing this alone. My DH would happily have me crawling in beside her just so his sleep is not interrupted. He cannot stand listening to her going on and on crying mummy but I do not want to be creating bad habits for myself.