Please, I really need some help.

[ionesmum]

I'm sorry, I keep posting about this but things aren't getting any better. Dd2 is still using me as a dummy, she is awake two or three times a night, in fact a couple of nights ago she was awake for two hours and was sucking away the whol etime. I really need to get some proper sleep but just don't know how.

Hi Iones mum, I'm so sorry that you are having such a rough time. Personally, the tracey hogg ideas, i think are lovely and have used some of them on DS, I saw the recent episode and yes it takes persistance to make it work, but it works in the end. One thing she did do was got DP (if that's appropriate, sorry if I've put my foot in it here) to do the pick up put down method, cause the option for milk just isn't there then. It took 45 mins the first night just so that you are forwarned that it takes a while. Also might it be worth explaining to DD1 what you are trying to do? so she doesn't just hear her sister crying and get concerned?

Good luck and let us know how you get on.
Lots of Love H

Some more lovely messages, thank you! I will give the BW thing a go, not now as dh has tonsilitis but when he is better, and wil let you all know how I go!

Thanks again, I am so pleased to have got such encouragement.

hi donna again

From what I can see your doing everything you can. Some babies unfortunately are like that. I do agree with hv at trying to get more food in if you can. I gave my j less food last night because he seems a bit constipated and waking himelf up straining to poo but all that happened was hw woke up twice instead of once. Soo tonight will try and cram him full with food. did hv advice was to eat. I assume something long lasting like pasta. I really hope you get some sleep soon. Does partner or someonehelp. ie let you go back to bed and they look after little ones for a bit. My hv has nursery nurses that can come and give you a break. good luck donna

Thanks donna. Have been trying to give dd2 more food but it doesn't really agree with her, also have been chatting to other mums here on the subject! (on the need to cut down bfeeding thread). She just preers milk. Dh is very good but is unwell himself atm. We have nursry nurses who come to advise at home but not really give you a break as such. I think what I really need is a parenting guru to come and spend a few days with me to get me on track - preferably without a camera crew!