The night are getting unbearable!!!

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I had previously posted a topic in B&D re my 11 month old and that he will only sleep cuddled into me in our bed - but its getting worse.
A typical night for us is bath both DS 11months & DD 22 months, downstairs and milk before bed at 7.30ish. DS will go to sleep as long as i stand next to him, DD (who used to be a great sleeper) now my DH takes her to bed and pretends he is going to the loo and leaves her door open otherwise she will sit crying, being sick unless he is sat with her. then the night goes ok.
Until midnightish then DS wakes crying for us so we go in give dummy and settle him, then he wakes again about 1am, and has a full 8ozbottle (even days where he eats loads, he can still have a bottle in the night.
Then DD wakes and crys until she is with us!!! its becoming unbearable as they are both in our bed, they both only want to lay with me, they dont want DH to go near them (he is really feeling rejected!!) and so i ly there in between them with them both lying on me, with DH on the end of the bed.
Please help, what can we do, last night we put them both back in their beds at 2am but after an hour of crying/screaming they came in with us, we are reallly tired and not sure what else to do.

really sympathise; dd (8 months) sleeps with me and ds (3) comes in at some point every night. depending how the night goes and how often they each wake up wanting cuddles, it can be a dreadful nights' sleep. we've just come through a few colds and stomach bugs and it did get very difficult.

we have decided just to go with it and now that illnesses are out of the way, i'm finding that we're all getting a better sleep. when ds comes into my bed, dp goes into ds's bed and often now i don't even wake up for the changeover!

we're just taking the view that it's not forever, but obviously this might not suit everyone. if not, i hope someone comes along with tips about how to get them both to stay in their own beds!!! good luck.

Beds on the floor for them -- let DD bring her blanket and pillow in and get a camping bed for DS.