cc - what are you meant to do when you go in to them?

[deaconblue]

just started cc with dd (8 months)as she wants to be up playing for hours in the night but screams if I leave the room. I understand how often to go back in and how long to leave her for but not sure what to do when I go back in. Last night I put her dummy back in, stroked her face and said night night then left as soon as she stopped screaming. Should I avoid speaking etc?
please tell me it will only take a few nights as I feel so horribly guilty about it.

I was (and did) told to just go in, pat/stroke them, avoid direct eye contact, and then leave again.

I'm not sure the Dummy would really help tbh (sorry) as if she wakes again in hte night you're going to have to keep going in and putting it in, which will kind of scupper any chances of her sleeping through.

how many nights did it take til things got better?
I don't think talking to her etc helped tbh as she was really upset as soon as I left anyway.

I only did it with DS1 (when he was 6 months old) and it took - ermm a long time the first night, but he slept through, the 2nd night was 1/2hrs, then was about 10 minutes for the next few weeks then he suddenly stopped whining at all except as I walked out the door, as soon as I disappeared he stopped !

that sounds promising, thanks. She kept it up for about 1 hr 20 mins last night. she tends to only get up once a night but is up for ages. Weirdly she always goes down really well.

I think the most important thing is be consistent with what you do. So say 'night night sleep time' and stroke her face and repeat every time you go into her. I wouldn't put her dummy back in as the point is you want her to understand how to go back to sleep herself therefore put her own dummy in iyswim. We did cc but at 5.5 months to get rid of dummy so different. DS was waking 5 or 6 times a night and we had to go in and hold his dummy in till he fell asleep again. So we went cold turkey and it took 17mins the first night and he slept through then 15 the next and that was it. its awful but the first night is the worst. good luck

Do and say as little as possible. Minimal or no eye contact. I used to just pat them and say 'sleepy time now', then leave.

I went in and stayed until he calmed down, told him the first time it was sleep time and patted him shushing, 2nd time patted and shushed, 3rd time patted.
I'd try not to talk tbh.
I did cc very early, at about 4/5 months and it took 3 days. The only down side to doing cc is that when they get ill/teething or something happens to upset balance like going away on holiday etc, you have to do it all over again.
I'm not against cc obviously as I did it and still do but thinking with next one I might try something else instead