Upset at moving DS to his own room

[Gangle]

He is 9 months and we moved him today. I didn't want to but DH insisted as he thinks he needs get used to sleeping in his own room. DS is also a terrible sleeper and we're hoping his own room will help. I want what's best for DS and that's for him to be independent but I love having him next to me in his cot. We've never spent a night apart and the thought of it is so upsetting. Did anyone else feel like this?

yes, i did. we moved ds1 when he was about 5 months because we couldn't fit the big cot in our room and I was sooooo sad.

I was sad when we moved ds2 at about 10 months too, but it was in an attempt to help him sleep better, and he was in with his big brother so I did feel a bit better than I did with ds1 going itno a room all by himself.

missed him though

I felt like this with both of mine and they were older than your DS, DD1 was 15 months, DD2 13 months, it's like the end of an era, yes it is very upsetting. But like the end of everything breastfeeding, starting nursery, big boy/girl bed you get over it.

I found it quite emotional when we moved DS1 into his own room at 6 months - however, I was ready to get my own room back and be able to watch telly in bed, read in bed without fear of waking the baby.

Am back to square one now though as DS2 is 6 weeks old and in our room!!

giving up breasfeeding will kill me! Very tempted to move him back into our room. What do you think? DH will go mad.

do you really have to move him? co-sleeping is very nice,and seems natural to me.If it feels sad to you to be separated then maybe you and baby still need to sleep side by side for a while longer,he will not be a baby for long and you will never get this time again.(still have two in with us,although the older is now ready to move and is about to get a bed!)

Gangle - I'm BFing and cosleeping with 5 month old DD3 theres no way I feel ready for her to go into her own room, she's far too little still. As hellymelly said they are too soon toddlers and wanting there own bed so treasure the baby time whilst you can (wise third time mum emoticon). Can't advise you re your DH but you have to do what you feeel is right for you.

Well, he sleeps better in with us but we don't as I constantly worry that he will fall out, which has happened twice, or that he will overheat as he oftens ends up with some of the duvet over him when he is already in his gro bag. He wakes up numerous times a night to feed, maybe because he can smell my milk, and we're all exhausted so it could help. I just don't want him to go.

I felt like this. Moved my DS out at about 5 months when I couldn't squeeze him into his moses basket anymore. The HV told me that moving her babies into their own room had made them sleep soooo much better so I thought this was going to be the magic answer to him sleeping better.

Ha! No such luck. He's moved back in, and out again, a few times! Now (19 months) he starts the evening in his own bed and then at some point when he wakes he comes into bed with me. I think we'll just gradually get to the point when he is in his own bed the whole night and I'll really miss snuggling up with him then.

I have a bedside cot which fits snug against our bed so solves the falling out worry (the far side we pad with a double duvet if we aren't in bed with her, also makes the bed bigger IYSWIM as you can sleep right up to the side.

I know what you mean though DD3 feeds 2-3 times a night which isn't bad compared to DD2 who was 5-6 times a night up until a year old. With DD2 when she was 12 months I said enough was enough she was having a lot of food during the day so I knew it was habit if she woke she got fed. So I went on boob strike first night when she woke DP went to her, hugged her, patted her etc 50 mins of crying then she went to sleep, second night 10 mins, third night nothing. Worked for us.

Just thought I would add that wanting the best for a nine month old baby is not wanting him to be independant,surely?He would die if he was independant.He is dependant on you and will be for a long while yet.Don't be pressured into turning him into a child,he is a baby.