how to help my DH to put DD down to sleep so I don't have to do it every time?

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DD is 14 weeks, have finally found a way to put her down to sleep with little fuss. Rock her for a few min in my arms, offer dummy, she snuggles in and closes her eyes, then I put her down and she settles herself and goes to sleep. When I give her to my DH to put to sleep and he tries something similar, she screams her head off and gets v worked up, so I have to come and settle her. I tried letting him put one of my worn tshirts on him so she could snuggle up to that, and she did go off to sleep with me whispering instructions to him today, but just wonder if anyone has any other tips, to reassure my DH and help him? He's on hol till the 5th so want him to be able to put her to sleep on his own before then!!

Thanks

Does he feel tense/nervous? Your DD would sense this and react to it.

Practice will make it easier for the 2 of them.

We found that I just had to let Dh and DS get on with it. I told him my method, then went down stairs and switched off the monitor and left him to it. This followed several previous attemmots whispering over DH's shoulder and generally breathing down his neck, and it was causing a lot of tension between us. And DS was still awake.

We come up with our tried and tested methods through trial and error and your DH will have to go through this too. Now, DH and I do differnent things with both our boys, but get the same end result - sleep.

thanks, he's just off to try again. Hope he'll manage on his own this time

The best gift you can give to your DH is to go out for the afternoon and leave him to figure it out. It will boost his confidence; you giving instructions just undermines it, despite your best intentions and his.

Totally agree with Ches Hope it goes ok.