did anone try a bed then put dc back into a cot?

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I am desperate for help here. DD (2.4) said she wanted to sleep in her big girl's bed so we agreed. first night, she settled well but was up a nd down for an hour in the night. 2nd night, one waking, striaght back down after loo. 3rd night, 47 attempts to return to bed, 4th night, lost count but up and down for over 2hrs.
I am at my wits end - am 5wks pg and shattered already - but don't know whether to persevere or to put her back into her cot. she is not keen on it - she told us her cot was broken, that was her reason for originally going into her bed.

can anyone offer any help please?

When DS was little and could easily climb out of his cot, we got him a toddler bed at 18 months. If he came in our room, we just let him stay with us. Eventually, we brought the toddler bed into our room for a while (although he still jumped into our bed in middle of the night). When we put it back in his room, sometimes he came into ours in the middle of the night and sometimes he didn't. Personally we have always operated an "open bed" policy in our household, and at 5 DS still comes into our room although if he comes in before 3am we try (and is easier now) to take him back to his now full sized single bed. We always leave the light on in his room and have only just started turning off the landing light.

They are wriggly and it is a pain, but she will grow out of it, especially if you just go with the flow, and don't make it into too much of an issue. It's more important that you all feel happy and secure and you all get some sleep, not who sleeps where.

I had similar problems with ds at 2.6, but he wanted to go back into his cot. The night he managed to climb into it I decided to give up.

At 2.10 he suddenly refused to go in the cot any more, and we had nightmare nights for 2 weeks (he finally fell asleep between 10 and 1 after going to sleep at 7.30 previously).

He did get used to it, and is much better now.

If she wants to go in her bed, I would stick with it tbh. It will get better.

thanks bunny and jas.
bunny, an open bed wouldn't work for us but then again, neither does the 3 a.m screaming!
we have been trying the 'back to bed' technique but her will seems to be stronger than mine.
i will give it till next week to get better, and then reassess i think, i can't go on like this.

I did. I've just moved her into a bed again and its worked. Not to say she doesnt need putting back but its not to the same extreme. the crunch came the second time when she started spreading poo everywhere in her cot.

We've put a stairgate on her bedroom door and mainly leave her to it. Occasionally we have to move her from the floor to the bed but it does seem to be working.

I had forgotten what it was like because ds2 moved across like a dream. I think for dd the first time she liked the idea but the reality of being so exposed but a bit too scary.

thanks folks. she asked for her cot tonight so we have put her back in that! will wait a couple of months and try the bed again.