DS will be 11 w.o on Monday. BF and his longest ever stretch between feeds has been 5hrs, but has only done this once, and didn't go to sleep straight away (grr!). We started trying to do a bedtime routine of bath, feed upstairs and then put down but bath seemed to make him harder to settle, and got very frstrated at spending an hour trying to settle him, only to give up and bring him downstairs with us, where he would kick happily in his moses basket smiling at us for another hour! Now, I feed him downstairs and let him kick about til he starts grizzling, then let him fall asleep on me and carry him upstairs when we go to bed (about 9.30 usually). If he feeds at 8ish, he usually wakes up 11/12 and then every 2hours after that. When he wakes up he is sucking furiously at his fist, and on DH's shoulder if he picks him up to try and comfort him, and it's as if he hasn't been fed for days! He will go 2.5-3hrs quite happily between feeds in the day. He then dives onto boob and guzzles for 5mins, then starts to fall asleep and has to be prompted to keep sucking intermittently for another 5mins before he falls off, and I put him back to bed. He was settling quite quickly again after feeds, but we have just made the transition to cot (in our room) and he is very fidgety now and throwing himself around. Also after 5am feed, he then is very unsettled and wakes again at6am. I settled him again this morning by lying him on his tummy which scares me a bit.
He settles himself to sleep for his 1st nap in the morning in his cot really well, but gets progressively more difficult as the day wears on. During the day we are in a reasonable routine and I am pretty good at putting him down for a sleep when he is tired, although by the afternoon, I usually let him fall asleep on me, so he gets a decent sleep as he really tired and will only nap for 30-60mins in cot. In the evening it all seems to go to pot, with trying to get food ready and eaten, and have showers etc ourselves.
Am I being unreasonable wanting/expecting him to be doing beter than this? One book I read said that if they are waking for feeds at nightmore frequently than every 3hrs then they are starting to develop sleep problems .
He has had a couple of colds recently, and we have just moved him from moses basket to cot, and I think he might be having a growth spurt as he's been feeding every 2hrs during the day the last few days, do am I being mean if I start trying any kind of sleep training stuff?
Sorry for loooong message, any help/advice would be fab-I am v.tired!