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Playing up for me but fine for DH - how can I get my DS back to sleep in the night?!

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champagnesupernova · 11/12/2008 10:47

DS is 8.5months and has been in his own room since 6 months. He is yet to sleep through the night - though for a brief period between about 5 and 9 weeks old he went from midnight to 6am. He then had his imms and about 4 hours is the longest he's slept since then (I doubt whether the 2 are connected but that's what we noticed)

So I often bf him to get him to go back to sleep but this doesn't always work any more.

He's clearly tired; moaning and rubbing his little eyes. So I will speak gently to him to calm him and I will be rocking him in my arms, his eyes will be closed and his thumb in his mouth, his breathing steady as though asleep, I will pop him down, leave a reassuring hand on his back and then take it off. Watch for a few minutes more and then just as I'm about to creep out of the room and back to bed, he will lean up and start babbling, reaching up and holding on to the top of the cot.....

This happened about 8 times last night - it took me over 2 hours to get him to go back to sleep and in the end I brought him back to our bed and held his hand until he fell asleep.

He woke again at 4 and DH took him back to HIS room and DS went back to sleep in - wait for it, 10 mins.

I feel so bad that he won't go back to sleep with me.
ANY ADVICE WELCOMED - it's getting desperate now.

TIA

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Zil131 · 11/12/2008 13:02

I have the same thing. I think DS realised Daddy means business, mummy is a soft touch who will pick him up again.
I have to confess that I have now started to just walk out. I know controlled crying is a whole different issue; but now DS will scream after me for about 5 mins, then give up.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Seona1973 · 11/12/2008 13:03

the only thing I would do different is that when your lo starts babbling and reaching up I would leave the room rather than stay and interact with him.As long as he is not crying then he is not upset and I would go back to your own room and leave him till he is upset/crying. If he is happy enough on his own, even if he is awake, then just leave him to it. If ds wakes I go to him, give him a hug, give him his taggy blanket, switch his music box thing on and then leave - I'm not hanging about it the cold when I could be warm in bed!! Leaving him on his own also gives him the chance to try and settle himself without the need for you to be there with him.

p.s. did you ask your dh what he did differently to you?

ches · 11/12/2008 14:42

Separation anxiety!

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