Cosleepers - please help me <desperate> - how do you get 2 DCs in bed?

[crokky]

I have a DS (2.8) and a DD (8 months).

How could I get them both in the bed (am worried about DS hurting DD accidentally)?

Currently, we are in a superking which is up against the wall. DS is by the wall, then me and then DH on the edge. We also have a cot in our room which DD is in AND a single bed (which DH sometimes goes into if there is a lack of space or I use it to breastfeed DD in the night). We have no other furniture, no clothes, nothing in the room at all other than the 2 beds and the cot.

DD's sleep is very bad (grobag in cot). DS's sleep was also very bad as a baby and that's why he came into the bed with us. I want to move the beds/make some arrangement where DD can cosleep as well because I put her in the bed in the day for her lunchtime sleep and she loves it.

Any suggestions welcome! I want to get some sleep sometime this decade!

DS (3.10) sometimes joins us and DD. We have a superking too and tend to end up in one of these configurations

DS-DH-DD-me

DS-DH-me-DD

DH-DS-me-DD

So that basically DS is never next to DD.

It does get cramped with four of us, mind you (we virtually never do it for a whole night).

So do you have something stopping them (especially your DD, I'm guessing she is the youngest?) falling out of the bed? That's the other prob! Don't know whether to try and join the 2 beds up somehow

We have the same arrangement as PortandLemon. Our DS is 2.5 and actually did fall out of the bed a month or so ago. Gave me such a fright - but he didn't even wake and was unhurt.

Our bed is very low to the ground - under two foot drop.

Our DD is only 3months and not rolling -yet.

Also we have done away with pillows (takes a bit of getting used to.) and have the kids up high in the bed in their sleeping bags. Myself and DP sleep lower down in bed with feet touching bottom - we are both short - our heads are level with their chests/hips. Seems to give more room and removes worry about rolling onto them.

Get's a bit warm though - my winter duvet won't be needed this year.

No, if DD is sleeping on the outside I tend to have one arm out and sort of curled round her (not touching, just acting as a sort of perimeter) so that I should sense it if she starts rolling towards the edge. I try to arrange things so that she spends the bulk of the night in the middle, though -- if she's on the outside it's generally just for the last few hours.

If the beds are the same height I'd be tempted to try to join them up (but keep your DD on the main bed away from the gap.