Co-sleeping one year old. Bed time is now 10pm ish, i've tried to cut naps wake him early nothing is helping. I need him back in his cot at a decent hour for a toddler. HELP PLEASE.

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Well ds is co sleeping which is fine really but i now feel i want mine a nd dp's bed back as ours.
Ds has slept in his cot through the night for arround 5 weeks when he was 8-9 months. But he had a cold and kept waking and i found that breast feeding through the night really helped, so he managed to worm his way back into our bed (dp in spare room, bed is too small for three of us) once again and well i am months later.

When he was sleeping in his own room and cot his bed time was arround 8, 8.30 at a push and he would wake at 8 am ish.

He now goes to bed at 10pm some times 11 still playing standing up in the bed etc. he wont go to sleep until i go to sleep.

I don't want to go down the CC route again. It did work at 8 months it allowed me to cut out his night feeds and got him in his own cot. In three nights.

But now he's older and standing up in his cot it's so hard we tried a month back for arround 30 minutes and i had to give up he became too distressed. If anyone happened to over hear they would have thought i was torturing my child not trying to get him to go to sleep!

He wakes at 8ish
He has a nap at arround 1 pm for 20-30 minutes and another at 3/4pm for 20-30 minutes again.

I've tried cutting out naps but its impossible to keep him awake. I've tried waking him up earlier still goes to bed at the same time.

Please help me any advice welcomed.

At this age my DD was napping for around 3 hours over 2 naps. Is it possible that your DS is chronically overtired, and that instead of shortening naps, you need to try and see if you can get him to nap for longer? Sounds counter-intuitive but worked for us.

The No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley gave DH and I our evenings back when DS was about one. He still wakes up in the night, and often ends up in bed with us, but it was a huge relief not to have him wake up every 45 minutes in the evening. I can't remember exactly what we did now, but it worked within a few days -might be worth a try?

I think PerkinWarbecks suggestion of longer naps is one of the things that we did too - it definitely helped

I'm looking for tips too. dd doesn't go to bed till 10 and she's 4! And she co-sleeps

How do i make him sleep longer though? He wake himself up from his naps.

Longer lunch time nap cut out afternoon nap. I guess you have to look at getting him to go to sleep in his cot and be resettled in there?

The only time he'll sleep for long periods of time is if he falls asleep on a walk and i bring him home and leave him to sleep in his push chair. But this doesn't always result in a long nap and i can't always go for a walk every day especially with winter weather.

if you want to be gentle i would start by getting him to go to bed earlier with you, and agree with lengthening naps too. once he has got into habit of sleeping at 8 ish or even 7 ish then think about trying to settle him in his cot

These days he only goes in his cot whilst i have a shower in the morning. I can't lay him in his cot whilst asleep he just 'knows' and wakes crying/winging instantly. Sadly another bad habbit is that he often falls asleep after/on a feed.

Although after the cc at 8 months he would go up to bed at 8pm awake but tiired and fall asleep in 10 minutes or so after playing in the dark. But he far more aware now and feel that he would just cry and winge and shake his cot if i ever tried to do this again. I'm awful with the crying and winging i'm a soft tough!

Please can i have some tips on lengthening naps! i wouldn't have a clue where to start.

I'm going to have an early night tonight as i'm exhausted. So will take him up early tonight that sounds like a good way to ease him into it.

At this age my dt's dropped the 3/4pm nap- I know everyone has said otherwise but imvho, it just kept them up too long in the evening. One nap should do if it's a decent one.

I've just had a look for the no cry sleep solution book before i take us both up to bed.

But do you think i should get the baby version or toddler?

and thankyou all for your replies so far!

i have a really bad sleeper, so i take him for walks in his pram for his afternoon naps to make sure he gets them. bloody tiring i know

i brought the toddlger version off amazon last night, as well as the no-cry potty training book whilst i was there! planning ahead! i've also brought a lulabye cd! Im just prayig something works