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When did you put your lo into their own room at night?

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lauraloola · 10/11/2008 09:35

Hi, just wondering as dd has now started sleeping the whole night in her cot instead of coming to bed with me at 1am.

Dp would love to come back to bed but cant sleep with dd making noises and snoring

She is 5 months old next week. I know 6 months is the aim but have you done it sooner??

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wilbur · 10/11/2008 09:41

Poor ds1 ended up in his own room at 3 weeks - it was just across the hall from us and we left the doors open, but he was such a snuffly little soul, I would wake at every snort and then lie there awake for hours waiting for him to properly wake and need a feed. Dd was in with us for about 5 months, and ds2 (aka the pampered, precious baby) was in for much longer as I couldn't bear to let him go - I was still wedging him into a moses basket when he was waaay to big for it, feet practically hanging over the sides.

WowOoo · 10/11/2008 09:43

I didn't but I know many people who have and I wish that I had. the snuffles and noise reassured me but got no sleep.
I think if she's sleeping ok by herself you should try it. Could you use a monitor on quietly jsut for reassurance?

dizzydixies · 10/11/2008 09:46

shall be doing the move this wk at 15wks, she's too big for her basket & cot doesn't fit in our room

sweetkitty · 10/11/2008 09:48

Probably about a year

DD1 was 15 months DD2 12 months

Biglips · 10/11/2008 09:51

my dd1 stayed in our bedroom till she was 8 months old.....6 months wouldve of been ideal. All i can say is have a go and see what happens.

LouMacca · 10/11/2008 09:51

We had agreed to keep our twins in with us (in moses baskets) until they were 6 months but at 2 months old DH and I caught a sickness bug and thought it would be better if they went in their own room until it passed.

My little girl slept through for the first time that night so we put her in there every night and just bought our son in our room when he woke in the early hours for a feed. Once he slept through at about 4 months they both were put in their own room.

I know it is advised that you keep them in your room until 6 months but we had no room in our bedroom for 2 cots and they soon outgrew their moses baskets.

Ewe · 10/11/2008 09:52

I moved my DD at 7 months but she is back in at the moment as has been poorly.

I contemplated moving her earlier but as I had said to myself I would do it for six months I just couldn't do it sooner as if something happened I would never forgive myself. For the sake of four weeks if I were you I would just keep her with me, it's such a short space of time.

I am a rigid follower of rules though! Oh and a little pfb

TrinityWino · 10/11/2008 09:55

gecko is 21 months......hmmm maybe should start thinking about it

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lauraloola · 10/11/2008 09:55

Thanks. I think I will give it a go tonight. Dp is away this week so it will be a nice surprise for him to come home and have his bedroom back!!

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lauraloola · 10/11/2008 09:57

Ewe - Good point. Does anyone know how having them in the same room for 6 months reduces the risk of cot death?

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dizzydixies · 10/11/2008 09:58

my HV said it might help me to get her to sleep through the night too as she won't be disturbed by our snoring/rolling over etc and might be more inclined to settle herself if I'm not lifting her at the first snuffle and thrusting a nipple in her face

her room is only accross a very small corridor from ours though

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lauraloola · 10/11/2008 10:00

Dd's room is just across a small hall too. I have an Angel Care monitor with sensor pad so I would have that on.

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wilbur · 10/11/2008 10:03

I had a sensor pad monitor too - got quite addicted to the little flashing light . I'd probably still have one under all three if it wouldn't mark me out as a complete loon.

purplemonkeydishwasher · 10/11/2008 10:05

(oh trinity thank god! someone like me!)
Ds was almost 2. but now at 3 and a bit he still sleeps most of the night in our bed!

francagoestohollywood · 10/11/2008 10:16

No, we haven't done it sooner. Ds, our first child, was a bad sleeper, early waker etc, so he slept in our bedroom (in his cot) until he was 2, when he was replaced by dd. She went into her bedroom when she was around 9 months.

ThingOne · 10/11/2008 10:22

It's not quite clear why sharing a room with parents for the first six months reduces the chance of SIDS but the statistics show that it does. I have read suggestions that hearing the parents' breathing helps remind the baby to breathe. I think there also indications that you don't want them to sleep too deeply at such a young age. There has been quite a lot of research into it but I don't think anything definitive yet. I amy be wrong, mine are far beyond this now ... but back in my bed .

I wouldn't rush to move a baby out and kept mine in with me for more than a year. But, big but, as far as I am aware the biggest single indicator in SIDS is smoking.

lazyhen · 10/11/2008 10:23

2 weeks here. We had a sleep apnoea alarm and the room is really close so it worked well for us.

The reason we did it so soon is that her room is slightly cooler than ours, and DH is a shift worker so he would disturb her getting ready for work, and she'd disturb him. He's a driver so we didn't want to risk him falling asleep at the wheel.

I was BF too so I'd just go in and sit in her room to feed rather than pulling her into bed with us.

It was a well thought out decision and I'd do it again.

gd1976 · 10/11/2008 10:46

I sleep with dd in our room in the moses basket but i sleep with ear plugs in. They basically block out the tiny noises and snuffles but i can still hear anything that resembles a cry or grunt. I find this is the best of both worlds because ir is reassuring that they're in the same room as you but you're not kept awake ALL night!!!

pudding25 · 10/11/2008 13:09

We moved dd at 13 wks. I was disturbing her as I move around so much at night and I go to the loo all the time

She sleeps much better in her room.

TettyLouBar · 10/11/2008 13:14

My DD slept in her own room from 6 days old. Not sure whether this is recommended, but it worked for us.
She's co-slept occasionally due to me being soo tired I just couldn't keep upright to BF her without nodding off, but when she woke for her next feed I would sit up to feed her and then put her back in her own room.

ohdearwhatamess · 10/11/2008 13:19

Ds1 10 weeks (I think)
Ds2 on day 2

shopaholicDIVA · 10/11/2008 13:32

dd at 5week
ds at about 3m, stayed in his basket by my bed.

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lauraloola · 10/11/2008 17:02

Thanks everyone. I think I will give it a go - Maybe not tonight though, just one more night with me

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fairylights · 10/11/2008 17:12

we moved ds out at 5 months - his room is a long corridor away from ours so to put my mind at rest we got a monitor which has a sensor pad on it (so it beeps madly if the baby stops breathing, God forbid. And sometimes if they just roll too far from it which does happen occasionally). I think probably i am a bit paranoid but it certainly meant i could sleep ok after we moved him. The monitor cost about £50 - hadn't bought one before that and although it seemed like a lot of money it was worth if for the peace of mind!
The ironic thing is that as a baby ds did NOT like coming into our bed so we never co-slept but now he is a toddler he quite often comes into our bed in the early morning (average waketime 5- 5.30am ) so actually he it feels like he is in our room more now than when he was a baby! We really like it though

fairylights · 10/11/2008 17:13

EWE - did you find your passport????
Have been worrying and praying you find it!!

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