controlled crying??

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what is this and how many people found it helped?

It were you walk away and allow them to cry for periods of time, it depends what you use it for, obviously you dont allow your dc to cry if they are distressed or ill, but can be useful, for example, bedtimes, if they are not settling on their own and dont want you to leave the room

oh ok thank you for replying, do you do that and if you do, how long do you leave them for?

I have done it with my ds at bedtime, left him for 5 mins, came back into the room just to reasure him, gone back out, repeated every 5 mins until he settled. I also leave him to cry if he is having a tantrum(usual because he cant have something he wants) then after 5 mins try to distract him with some else

Hi - sorry to hijack thread!
I'm currently doing the cc method. It's taking 30 mins each time for him to go to sleep - will this gradually reduce?!

We did this at bedtime with our DS when he was around 18mths old. We'd start by saying clearly and firmly we'll be back in 1 minute, then 2mins, then 5mins then 7mins then 10mins then 15mins. Of course he couldn't understand the concept of time but I think he got the idea that we would be back and he was safe, and he generally fell asleep between the 10 and 15 mins at first but it gradually reduced to around the 7 mins. TBH he was never very distressed, just not settling. I found that after a while (approx. 3 wks I think although it was two years ago) we'd suddenly realize that we hadn't gone back up say after 7mins and he'd gone off to sleep, job done so to speak.

I did this controlled crying along with pick up put down.

Daughter would get laid down to sleep and we say night night its time to sleep. then went for 5-10 min intervols before going back in. Upon going back in we would the FIRST time say night night love you and give a kiss and lay her back down BUT we never took her out of her cot, just kissed her in her cot and placed her down.
the SECOND time was its only bed time, night night and lay back on bed, again not picking her up.
ThIRD was just laid back on bed and each and every time after that was silently putting her down. Giving 10 mins inbetwen

It worked great. we did that about 2 nights and was fine and used it again down the road when she was testing her limits. Now shes a great sleeper and now 2 goes to sleep and nap without a struggle and happily walks up the stairs to bed.

some people would think its a bit harsh but in the long run you will be happier and therefor be happier with your child and he'll grow up knowing that bed time is sleep time. just stick to your guns and if your going to do the cc method you have to commit to it and not givein in the beinging. it may seem like a long night but its worth it in the end. Baby should get the hint after a while and after 2-3 nights

ALLNEW- yes it decreases

Thanks, I'll focus on that light at the end of the tunnel!

Its not for everyone.

And can be dangerous, especially for very young babies!

only suitable for older babies IMO