will we ever sleep again?

[RB1]

10mth old has never slept through and always been bf to go to sleep(very bad Mummy)
this is carrying on and is now waking up 3 to 4 times a night. still bf to go to sleep at these times(very bad mummy)
but have tried controlled crying,soothing in other ways but not bloody well working!
anybody have any wisdom to pass on?

It will pass, eventually! If you are very strict and stick to the rules rigidly the controlled crying will work but from personal experience it is just too harrowing!! With DS1 I never had this problem as he had dummies but DS2 wouldn't use them at all so he was bf to sleep cos I was too knackered to put up a fight! You are not a bad mummy by the way! Do what feels best for you when you are ready and not what anyone else says you SHOULD do.

RB1 who says you are a bad Mummy? Your HV?

Mine tried to tell me that my 7 month old DS was unusual in that he didn't consume tons of jarred baby food and sleep through.

I live in an area where there is considerable socio-economic deprivation and substance abuse. I strongly believe that some HVs prefer to tell people that leaving a baby to cry all night is better than risking the awful alternative

DS is now 16 months and has recently started to take a bottle so I can have DH do the nights at weekends. I'm mired down in exhaustion but what keeps me going is that my DD, (7 years older) was exactly the same yet we survived to do it all again. Hope you get some practical advice too

Almost the same here. DS 10 months and never slept through. I don't mind though and that's what matters. I returned to work, so he's at nuersy for daytime naps (hence not BFed to sleep). I also night weaned (12am-5am) for a while (using pick-up put down), so that DH can get up and carry him around in the night. That was at a time when he woke every 45min to be Bfed to sleep and I could;t cope with that. He always goes back to sleep within 5 min, and so do we.
So, only do something, if the waking bothers you.

Def. not a bad mummy for bf to sleep! If it works it works and you stick with it m'dear. Night waking that is new is not due to you doing something wrong, it's due to:

• about to start walking/pulling up
• growth spurt
• teething pain
• beginnings of separation anxiety
• etc.