15 week old dd not settling....pleeease help

[mads1]

So last week i started a thread on how wonderful everything was going!! Dd2 had 2 (or 3?) nights of sleeping through. when she strirred i put the dummy in and this settled her (if she was hungry then she would let me know big time!!). She was waking at 7 ish in the morn and happy to wait 15-20 mins for feed.

HOWEVER... the last 3 days and nights, she will not settle by herself. I use to be able to put her in her room with dummy and walk out. Now she is screaming as soon as she goes in the cot. She still cries even if i pick her up ( although) eventually calms until I put her back down).

Last night she woke at 1am. I put the dummy in but she woke again at 1.30am crying so i fed her and she she would not go to sleep again til 4!!! I tried everything. Nappy change, winding, lights on dim, lights off, pick up put down calpol another feed at 3.30 finally made her fall asleep - something I do not want to get into.

Just put her down for the third time today and again she has cried so hard that she exausted herself. by the way, she didn't take her 2pm feed very well, but was happy not to.

Any advice please. Can't have her crying all night again because she'll disturb dd1 (3 y) who bless is already tired at the end of the week.

I have probably left out so many little details so i do apologise... oh she's stirring ...s* she's only had 20 mins!she'll be overtired at bedtime at this rate Oh Joy!!!

Is she knawing her fists/drooling or doing anything else that might indicate teething?

Don't want to worry you unneccessarily but would you say she is off her food or just not taking that 2pm feed well. Alarm bells ring for me when DCs are off their food.

Growth spurt! She's hungry.

Had thought about teething. She's been a drooler for weeks and loves sucking on her fist and fingers...hmm?

Just fed her and she seem to only last 10 mins on each side - was fussy intially as if needing a poo or there was no let down. Has finished and seems satisfied.

mads1 could be growth spurt/phase..dd also 15 weeks - had unsettled week last week - but also had the screaming (and I'm talking real meltdown fits) for no reason.. I'm assuming its a phase as ches says (althoguh got some drooling etc she doesnt seem to have any teeth through yet).

also the buggering about getting distracted re food rings a bell - think is related to being more alert generally

not looking forward to another stressful night. I had more sleep when she was a newborn!!!

Tried thinking positive in the early hours today. I thought "ahh,right now, all over the uk, there are mums settling their los doing what mums do best" then I thought "b***ks I'd rather be asleep!"

arrrghhh! Bloody fireworks outside!!!! Just got her off!!!!!!!

You can tell had stressful day

Have you heard of a book called The Wonder Weeks, about when babies get all unsettled at certain times because they are going through developmental leaps? It says 12 weeks and 19 weeks for these 'leaps' around your DD's age but it could still be that. Worth a read, I think it is aboput 8.99 from Amazon.

And i thought i'd heard of every child book under the sun!!!!

Thanks Neenztwinz, I'll have a look at that!!

Sod buying it, here are the highlights: www.livingcontrolsystems.com/wonder_weeks/content_ww.html

What happens if you feed her more? She's still very little - are you demand feeding? Thier needs do fluctuate - if she's growing a lot she'll need more food.

seeker agree wtih the feeding more, also wrapping her up more - put extra layer onto dd and that defo helped the settling a bit

hungry!

thanks everyone! Yes have started feeding her again. Sometimes it settles her a she falls back to sleep but other times, when I put her back down she cries.

Have just fed her ( yes it's 2am!) and now left her to suck dummy. Waiting 10 mins to see if she goes to sleep.

Bought the no-cry sleep solution today and working my way through it. It seems that one of my problems is that we don't have a night time routine for dd2. Dd1 always had a fantastic one. Bath, brush teeth, story and bed. Poor dd2
gets a top and tail and a feed then to bed. And this is inbetween doing dd1 who is running around and having tantrums because she's tired and I'm shouting at her to get a move on because I've got dd2 to do to.....it's not at all relaxing and fun.

Dh can't help much because he works tip late...and is away alot. .
Sorry, now I' m venting and going of the topic.

ches- thanks for website! Does help you understand their behaviours from a different perspective.
Thanks also to neenztwinz. .