13 month old question! Help!

[wzmo]

Ok so my LO is 13 1/2 months and she has weened herself from day nursings, but still wakes 2 times a night to nurse and once about 45 min - 1 hour after being put to sleep to be rocked back to sleep [ but not to nurse ] So my question is... is this just a phase? [ the whole not sleeping through the night ] She was sleeping better when she was younger! I really don't think the whole letting her cry it out will work with her, seeing as she gets crazy mad, and stands up and gets really get upset!!!! the few times we tried she got sooooo upset that we had to wake up and turn on the lights and walk her around the living room to calm her down. So....... PLEASE!!!! if this is the case with anyone else what worked [ or didn't? ] or one night will she just sleep through and i will not even remember this stage??? THANKS for any help!!! p.s she is a wonderful baby in the day happy and she never seems tierd and usually takes naps 1 1/2 - 2 hours,

Sounds very much like mine at the moment (same age, although used to be a terrible sleeper, and is now just a crap sleeper).

I think there's an element of separation anxiety at this age - they're able to crawl and walk so can move away from us quickly, and they're programmed to seek us out more as a result. I think it's an evolutionary thing in order to prevent them wandering too far from the cave and being eaten by a sabre-toothed tiger or something. But it means when they wake up at night they're aware enough of themselves to be scared and need reassurance and extra security.

That's my made-up theory. Darwin and I would've been best mates.

Thanks it makes lots of sence. actually the lactation nurse thought it might be a seperation thing also [ even though i spend all day with her ] She did wake up the same amount of times last night but, slept in her crib and for some reason it just seemed like an easier night!?! so hopefully it sticks. What do you do with your LO when he gets up so much?? Does he need to nurse to get back to sleep?

He goes to bed in his cot around 7, if he wakes in the evening he gets put back into his cot, and if he wakes after we've gone to bed he comes in with us. He doesn't need to feed to sleep, although he usually expects it if I go to him. Obviously when he comes in with us in the night he helps himself to BFs as he feels like it.

Some nights recently he's been hard to settle (teeth I think) and he's actually ended up in his cot again and slept better for it. Although saying that, one of us usually finds ourselves lying on the floor next to the cot for a long period when we have nights like these

This all sounds so familiar! I think we are also going through separation anxiety. My DD is almost 13 months and all of a sudden wants to be in my arms ALL the time. Makes my life difficult when I am trying to get ready for work. She is also a rubbish sleeper but seems to sleep much better once she comes into our bed. The cheek! And has started asking for a bottle in the middle of the night. Again, the cheek!. She stopped BF 3 months ago and was ok about not having a bottle in the night for ages and ages...sniff!

Hi my dd is 14months old and has woke every 1-3 hours throught out the night to bf just or comfort. So 3 nights ago I stopped bf completely. First two night were quite bad as she was really dependant on it but last night she woke twice for only a few mins and I cuddled her back to sleep.

I'm so happy as she was a nightmare and I woke everyday feeling drained from all the bf...

Hopefully things will continue to improve. Also she was so happy to go to sleep last night none of her usual whinging and moaning. But I really feel this was the right time for us to stop bf and could not of done it earlier. Also should metion I let her stay in my bed all night, but will eventually move her out...

Gosh, I am a little nervous to totally stop BF even though i no that we are getting to a time where it [i think] is for comfort not cause she is really hungry! so i was thinking of trying to drop at least the first nurse that happens at 12 - 1ish, the only problem is i think we should try on a weekend when my DH doesnt have to work in the am, so he could get up and rock her, cause when she see me oh boy she just gets mad!!! MAMACHAT i am glad it seems to be going well with weaning you lo from night feeding, must be nice to have the energy back in the morning!!!

I don't think you should completely stop bf untill you are ready and feel your lo is completely ready...

My problem was I knew dd was only comfort sucking as after a minute at the breast she was fluttering when sucking and woke anytime I took my nipple back...

It was very draining and even tho sometimes when she wakes at night I am awake for longer periods of time I have more energy as all that bf was phsyically draining me even tho I was asleep...

She is also not as whingy in the day as is not pulling at my top trying to bf...

ya my lo wakes and gets all mad when i try to pull away from her nursing time, but i can;t imagine she is getting much milk seeing as she only nurses 2 times at night so my breasts are not so full, but who knows i would love a good solid 5 -6 hours of sleep but to be quite honest even when she does sleep longer then usual i keep waking to check on her or lay there waiting for her to wake so its a no win!!!!!!!!!

My 13 1/2 month old is teething, has separation anxtiey and just loves to nurse all night. I can get her to sleep in the crib at 7, then she cry at 11 and I will take her to sleep with me. She would get up and nurse, as to make sure I'm still there at least twice. I have been thinking about weaning but my goodness... its going to be so hard on me and her...