Which first? Move 6 month old into his own room or solve sleep problem? Desperate, please help!

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Our very nearly 6 month old is about to go into his own room but we have a dilemma.
He wakes 5, 6 sometimes 7 times a night and we really need to use some form of sleep training. Haven't decided whether to use NCSS or progressive waiting, but that 's not really the issue.

Basically, should we
a) move him to his own room, wait till he's used to being in a new environment then start the sleep training.
b) start the sleep training and move him to his own room once that's sorted.
c) do both at the same time so he learns completely new sleep associations.

I haven't had more than 4 hours sleep over the course of a night for nearly 6 weeks and I'm starting to get really down. I also can't think straight and would appreciate any advice. Thanks in advance.

it was hell - until the sleep was sorted.

DS2 was a "oops" moment

as was DS3 (he was a double oops as the MAP didn't work )

I'd do both at the same time. It could be that he sleeps better on his own without the need for any sleep training. Maybe you and dh are disturbing him (and vice versa).

Ds1 slept much better when he went in on his own.

Don't talk to my mum anymore (long story), dad lives a 6 hour drive away and in-laws 4 hours so no-one to help out.
In-laws are fab but can't even make it for a weekend till October!

had same problem with ds2 just turned 2 up til 6 weeks ago, did not want to put him in with dd1 as he woke at least 8 or 9 times a night in end gave up and tried it at start of school holidays he slept straight through that night and every night since bonus in school holidays dd1 age six got up and played with him for a while now think must be us disturbed him

Don't let frequent wakings put you off putting children together, i have found they mostly don't wake each other up, recently on holiday 18m and 5.5m were literally in travel cots which were so close they were almost touching the other and they woke at different times and when these 2 wake they do it at full volume, it was a great time...not...as i was up pretty much every hour from 11pm to 7am with 1 or the other but never together in the same hour either

It is often us as the adults that disturb the babies, when i am working i have the crib as far away from the bed as possible if baby is fretful, which sounds nuts as furthur to walk but baby does settle and sleep better than if in touching distance.

With current baby she does sometimes co-cleep with mum happily but if she is in the crib on my bed and i try to sleep i have a tough time is she complains often.

sorry cant help as dont have a clue! dd1 slept throught from 6 weeks, dd2 from 7 weeks and ds is 6 months old tomorrow and i was up 6/7 times last night! Knackered! Is it just boys that do this?! has anyone used a sleep positioner as ds waking up cos rolling onto tummy and starts crying cos doesnt like it and cant roll back yet? Or any other tips to stop a rolling baby - apart from cling filming him to the mattress?!! please help!

Thanks for all your messages, going to do both at the same time, seems more sensible.

Sorry to hear about your nightmare FAQ, sounds horrendous!

Don't really know what to suggest carolinamoonbeam but hope he gets used to it soon. Both my boys have always been flat on their back. DS2 can't even roll over on to his tummy yet. For that I'm thankful.

Now just need to post for advice on which method to use, it's very confusing all this!

CarolinaMB several things can help.

1] A sleeping bag, you can tuck the excess length under the end of the mattress...works a treat

2] homemade sleep positioner - i have used 2 : a] a swim noodle/woggle under the bottom sheet, works a treat in the pop up crib as she was tipping it over as she thrashed about..nowt gentle anbout this girl

b] 2 hand towels rolled into sausages and tied to stay rolled and to stay a set distance apart and again placed under a fitted bottom sheet

3] commercial sleep positioners are good but you may not need it for long and if you have a sicky/messy baby it is in the wash more than in the cot.