am at end of teather, think cintrol crying is only option..

[pud1]

dd has never been able to settle herself. my fault i know have always breastfed her to sleep. she is now 6 months and has gone from sleeping for 4 hours at a time to waking 30 mons after she is put down at 7 then screaming as soon as she is put back down after her feed, this results in me giving up and putting her in my bed. would you recomend controled crying and have you any tips

Pud, at risk of being attacked, I second Elizabeth Pantly, No-cry sleep solution. Did not buy toddlers version but the other one and it helped loads.

My little one is 6.5m and also recently had similar problems, although not exactly same as dont bf (sadly ), he would not settle/sleep longer than 45m blocks/woke frequently in the night/could not get off to sleep without me.

Totally agree babies at this age have no malice or mastery in mind - just wants and needs.

Pantly gives you loads of ideas to help you to encourage your LO to gently learn how to self settle without crying/bfing. Its a really nice way to encourage an independent skill not all babies can necessarily master just yet, if that's the way you want to go of course. My DS is tonnes better (it has taken 4 weeks) and now I hardly have to get up at all in the night. Could not do that crying thing.

Good luck, and let us know how you get on.

Hi Ridgewaylass, I apologise for swearing. I wouldn't usually and I should not have done in this instance - I was using it not against you directly but in surprise that I had misread the text as someone pointed out.

I was shocked at the bit where you mentioned leaving the baby to cry for two hours, it is obviously not something you would have enjoyed doing and I presume you must have been instructed to do this - which is why I felt angry. Of course it is an awfl thing for a HP/HV to tell someone to do. I am not cross with you personally but some HVs do tell women to do very odd things and it does make me angry.

I think Trin ought to apologise to you as well, she is nice but does not always mince words

I am really sorry you were upset by our combined response.

There is a lot of defensiveness on this forum about babies being left to cry for whatever reason, sometimes methods spouted in textbooks can be awful, so MN hopes to provide a balance toward reasonable behaviour around infants, leaning toward attachment parenting in many instances.

I hope this explains why your post got a bit jumped on, it wasn't very fair as obviously you didn't know the layout here and what is generally regarded as correct advice etc.

Sorry I hope you hang about as you sound very pleasant.

I'm sorry
I was wrong to swear at you
more so than flight

I understand about babies using the breast as their sleep cue and feeling like they need it to get back to sleep everytime they wake

BUT I dont think that is sucj a abd thing

apart from the fact that I haven't had more than a straight 3 hour stretch of sleep in three years

all three of my girls were allowed to use my breasts liek that as I felt that is what they needed to rfeel secure when so young

dd1 (now 8)turned her affection to a cushion that is now named 'cushy' at 14 months

dd2 found her thumb at 4 and a half months and decided that was all she needed at 9 months

dd3 is 19 months and still wants my breasts
she still has them

I feel as she heads towqards two that I could probably persuade her to put her love in something else but I dont feel the need to try that yet

sorry again, hope you find a way to feel settled about your babys sleeping

but please dont do controlled crying