i think my baby boy is different ( not in a sgood sense) from all u guys babies here...

[Sanaa]

its gonna be a long message...
my 10 month old is ofcourse a horrible horrible sleeper. sleeps by 11:30 after a whole bedtime routine involving bath, bottle singing and rocking. wakes up 2 and a hlaf to 3 hrs later and after that its a nightmare. and finally wakes up at 8:30.
i tried all sorts of comfort items, blanket, my nightshirt, a music toy that projects images, dummy, do u know wot, he dosent even try any of them, rejscts every single thing. just wants me and me and ...yeah me.
tried control crying 2 times to teach him to fall asleep but...welll that was a disaster cause everytime he vomitted wotever he had in the evening cuz he would cry so hard although i wud b by his side , just not picking him up, so never doing that again! cuz hes a horrible eater ( no surprise there)
he wakes up at night just to be patted to go to sleep or sometimes breat milk but ive cut tha down.
so hmmm any help would be so ggr8. im gonna try this lavender oil tip that i read but i know it wont work.
ive lost my personality, am always angry now and just sulky cuz i dont get enuff sleep and keep getting migrains and i never had them before.
ok need to sleep now before he wakes up
do reply....someone....anyone..

Sanaa, poor you, you are having a rough time of it, arent you? Both my boys were terrible sleepers. My second in particular. I dont think I got a proper nights sleep until he was over a year old. But I found that if I just went in to him, in the dark, sat down by his cot, put my hand in and stroked his hand or his head with calm movements, singing a slow little tune, softly, without any real words, the same tune each time, it really calmed him, and he fell asleep again.

But what really nailed it for him to learn to sleep through, around 12 months, was when only my dh went into him in the night. Because he did not expect any milk from dh, and we had been told to stop night feeds at 12 months. And my gp said I was so sleep deprived that for my own health and sanity we had to tackle it the hard way. ONE week of somebody else going to him consistently. At the end of the week, he did not even wake up once.... Do you have somebody else who could try to calm him in the night, just to give you a break? Could your mum help out, just for a bit?

really feel for you- sleep whenever you can and it will pass. my son is now 7 but ddn't sleep well till 2 and 1/2. cranial oesteopathy helped a bit. he did have a very difficult birth and due to the ventouse found it difficult to sleep. he thn found it difficult to develop good sleep habits. if there is anyone you could ask for help so you could catch up on sleep, then ask. sleep makes so much difference.
good luck.

My DS slept from 9pm- 5am, and then again until 9am last night/today. That's not as good as usual, but it's ok-ish. It's usually around ten hours but I'm not sure why sometimes it's longer than other times IYSWIM.

I concentrated on what I did so that i could run through it today to see if it helps you at all.

Bathed him, fed him an hour early (he didn't take it all), put him down while he was still giggling and happy. Turned the light out, and walked away. He coo'd a little and then went quiet, so I went in to check and he was fast asleep. I checked every 15 minutes until 10 o clock, and then went to bed myself and he didn't even stir whilst I changed into my nighty and things. I heard him chatting to himself at 3 for a couple of minutes, then he went off by himself, and he wanted a feed at 5.15, so I fed him, changed him, put him straight back down, no playing. He then slept until 9 and woke up giggling and chatting, he wasn't even hungry.

I think the main thing I do is I don't fuss with him at bed time, just lay him down, kiss him, light out. And when he get up in the night, I feed him, change him, straight back down.

I am lucky enough to have a very good baby though. I feel for you as I found it so difficult when he was feeding every 3 hours at night, and had colic so we he'd feed for about an hour, wind for an hour to an hour and half, put down, then time for a feed again.

You can only do your best and keep trying things- some babies just don't sleep well.

Hang in there!

wow thanx all you who took out time to give me some advice.
I do co sleep. well u see we have a spare room so my hubby sleeps in that and me too for the first part of the night while baby sleeps in the cot in his room. then when he wakes up i just go and sleep in his room . thats when i co sleep and bf. which is really helpful cuz after that putting him in cot is diff.
actually a miracle sort of has happened . he is sleeping 4-5 hrs straight. but that when i put him to bed late by accident. that is 12 . and so have been doing for 3 nights now. he wakes up 2 times maybe after 5. which is really helping now. i dunno how long itl last but im savouring it. he finally wakes up at 9. i know its not a lot of sleep for him but he takes good naps during daytime. im sure from now on its gonna get better.
wot ive learnt from this whole thing is that my baby is a high need one and he likes sticking to me and i guess thats wot motherhood is all about. and i shudnt moan about it cuz nobody sed it would be easy . he is so little and he has just this tiny request that i keep waking up for him and letting him sleep in my bed.
im very satisfied now hearing that many ppl are goig tru these probs and that not every baby is an easy baby. im just gonna deal with it now because soon this time will pass, he'll grow up, ill forget about this few years, and will actually wish that they come back ....just like all mums say.
he is such a darling...he makes me laugh even when hes asleep so.....yeahthanku all so very much. u have been very helpful. and all those mums going thru the same prob as me...hang in there

one more thin id like to say is that although some methods do really work like CC as mothers swear by it , but i think most of it is luck as well. A method u tried may have worked or it may have been that the baby thought its time for him to sleep through. luck counts alot in this matter. some babies are just horrible sleepers.
G2B wot u did seems very gentle but u know wot i put him down and he starts crying. hes very clingy. all through the day he does not play on his own let alone do anything on his own. so its very hard for me to even go one step away from him.
why i went in this negative cycle was because i used to read ppl saying that sleep is the best gift u can give to him, that is learning to sleep. tht why i though i was being horrible cuz he still relies on me but now i dont think its that bad. hes in my arms....how bad can that be for him. !!!

you are not being horrible it is bloody hard and you are well entitled to moan about it
the good and the bad all part of it does not make you a bad mother
hang in there hope this phase is over soon

your not alone my ds3 slept 3 hours out of 24 for 3 years id hd 2 fab sleepers and as a nusery nurse id advised families with children that didnt sleep - believe me its nothing your doing or not doing - i have no advice other than u must sleep when u can and if the baby wont sleep sometimes its easier to concede defeat and bring him downstairs even if he has to play in a playpen while you doze

Sorry if I am misunderstanding (?) but do you try to put him to sleep earlier, or do you always try for 1130pm??

For the first 2 months our DD would not go "to bed" until 11pm so know whats that like.

Is our DS like that now?

Do you ever try to put him to bed at 630/7pm?

Sorry if that sounds patronising, just cant tell?