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baby hates his pram

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malinka · 08/07/2008 12:56

hi everyone! I have been reading mumsnet for a while,hope you can help.my ds hates his pram.he would cry and scream if I put him in it.I always carry him in a sling now-which he loves and hardly put him in the pram,because don;t want to upset him.can you plese give me advice how to make him comfortable in there.he is 11 weeks,I breast feed him and we co-sleep.he would not settle unles in contact with me.I enjoy carrying him around in the sling,but would like to have the other option-pram too.any advice welcome.

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malinka · 08/07/2008 13:18

forgot to mention that he sleeps in the sling for ages and wakes up a lot at night.I don`t like to call him a fussy baby,but I guess he is.just sometimes jelous when I see a soundly sleeping baby in his pram

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shomes · 08/07/2008 16:54

I know the feeling, don't worry, eventually when he learns to sooth himself he will fall asleep in the pram . Saying that my ds is 14 weeks and will sleep in the pram and then wake screaming. The only thing i can suggest is to try and entertain him whilst he is in there so he doesn't feel like its a scary place to be. I hope you get some results soon.

Albertine · 08/07/2008 17:05

Aw, he's not fussy, he just likes to be near you. My son is just like him. He's 18 weeks now and I still only use the pushchair when I know he is on the very verge of sleep (or already flat out). Even then he usually wakes up after about 45 minutes and starts howling, so I feel like I'm in a huge rush to get everything done before he gets upset. I find using a sling much less stressful, but it's not great when I need to do a proper shop.

I am sure that as they get older and can sit up and look out at the world, the pushchair will start to appeal more. Do you have any toys or books in there for him? We put a soft book and hanging toy in so that ds can play with them, and they often keep him interested enough that he doesn't cry quite as much or quite as quickly.

Sorry this isn't much help - maybe more experienced hands can give better advice.

shomes · 08/07/2008 19:14

It must be a boy thing lol!! I use a book with him in the car, it keeps him in his car seat on short journeys but as usual its short lived, they don't have a great attention span. I guess we just have to be patient and they will grow out of the stage eventually, we should just embrace the fact they they feel close to us x

Babyisaac · 08/07/2008 19:32

Malinka, I can totally empathise! My DS is 6 months old now and still hates being in the buggy. It has been a constant struggle to keep him in there. The same went for the carseat and the bouncer. He will now sleep in the buggy but when he wakes up he plays for just a short while and then screams to come out. I always take the sling out with me and end up carrying him and pushing an empty buggy!! I'm told babies can't be spoilt by this until they are around 9-12 months so I'm just going for the easy option now. Everything is just a phase, remember that!

CathyJo · 08/07/2008 19:50

My DD is 12 weeks and I fought for ages to get her to sleep in her pram including going on hour long walks 3 times a day in an effort to get her to sleep. It was making me really stressed as the longest she would do was about 20min so was consequently grouchy. About 3 wks ago I went back to the sling, which I had used only a couple of times when she was really tiny and it worked like a charm. She falls asleep within 2/3 mins and will have a really good sleep - usually 1.5hr 3 times a day. Since she has slept better in the day she has without doubt got better in the evening and will usually go from dream feed to wake up time now without any interim fussing. I would say just go with it, if you can get DS to sleep well in the day then nights will follow and if the sling is the answer for now then so be it. 1 other thing you could do, which does work for my DD is when she goes into the 2nd half of her nap ie around 50 mins I take the sling off (mine is a Baba sling and I have her across my body so easy to take off) and put her in her cot or pram still in the sling, but not on me. That at least gives me a bit of time without her and gives my shoulder a rest.

moocowme · 08/07/2008 19:59

have you tried some different prams? my ds hated the ones with the car seat thingy. got him a nice roomey one that he can lay back in and move his ars and legs about and he loves it. also got a few tous to hang on it as well. suggest you go and try a few out and see if your lo likes any of them.

youcannotbeserious · 08/07/2008 20:02

my DS loves his sling, hates his buggy.

i got a baby bjorn with lumbar supprt and he spends all his walks in it....

so, no advicebut you are not alone

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malinka · 08/07/2008 20:06

babyisaac,I do exactly the same-always carry a sling with me.do you think that if I put him in the pram for a short walks he will get used to it.have started that but always leave it becase he gets so upset and I don;t want him to make bad association with the pram-scary place to be left in.sometimes feel pressure becaus all my friends are saying that he must learn,all the babies like to be in a pram and I can not carry him forever.I do love to carry him around and cuddle him all the time but what when he gets older-will he be confident when I am not around and we all know the world is not a friendly place.

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Albertine · 09/07/2008 09:40

Don't listen to your friends. If your son prefers a sling, then why shouldn't you use one as long as you both find it comfortable? Especially if you buy one that is comfy and can be used into toddlerhood (say, something like an Ergo or Sleepy Nico, both of which I love).

I honestly don't think you can spoil little babies, and he will want to go in the pushchair or walk in his own time. I've read that studies show that babies who are carried a lot actually end up more confident because they have developed such a sense of security and trust.

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malinka · 09/07/2008 10:51

thanks everyone!I will use the sling if he is happy in there.will try him in the pram later,when he is more alert and can play with his toys-he is only 10 weeks old,2 weeks early.babies are all different.

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Tash1519 · 28/08/2008 09:56

I have ann 8.5 month old girl who hates buggy. She is breastfed and we co-sleep. i have an ergo carrier which is really comfy but I will be going back to work (2 days a week)I can only get her to nap by bf or popping her in the sling, she does however fall asleep without either when i'm away by crying, am i wrong for carrying her so much and meeting her needs? will she suffer when i go back to work?

Pinkjenny · 28/08/2008 09:58

My 15.5mo still hates her buggy, I'm sorry to tell you. In fact only last week someone stopped me in the street and asked me if she was OK because she was screaaaaaaaaming so loudly.

You get used to it. Use the sling.

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LaTrucha · 28/08/2008 10:56

My dd - now nearly 8 months, started off well in her carrycot but refused the chair when the carrycot was too small.

We put her in the sling for months and recently it really did become too much for me to do easily.

Two weeks ago - and she's a lot older than your DC - I just took her out for a short walk every day in the pram. At first she cried after ten minutes but within a week [amazed emoticon] she really likes it and even falls asleep in it. I think she was just scared and when she realised she wasn't going to fall out she settled down. I think the time was just right.

Maybe sling for a bit and try when a bit bigger?

zuleyka · 28/08/2008 21:50

We have a big bed-on-wheels type pram. Since a couple of weeks ago our 9w/o DS would not put up with lying in it any more. It has a buggy adaptor which can work facing towards you as well as away, and tilt right back for a nap. Last week we tried him sitting in it, propped up with blankets. He's a lot happier in the buggy configuration, able to see a bit more of the world but still see his mum and dad.

The pram is an "Arrue Derby". I keep the sling in the basket at the bottom just-in-case... DS loves the sling and comes out of it with a smug little face (but I start to get backache after 20 minutes in it, he's a big old lump ;) ). The sling is from www.didymos.de - just a long bit of fabric with a lot of different tying instructions for babies of different ages. They also claim that "baby wearing" gives the child a feeling of emotional support that can help it to build confidence and independence.

PortAndLemon · 28/08/2008 21:55

DS never learned to like his pram. I carried him in a sling (well, various slings) until he was old enough to walk/ride on shoulders. No reason you can't do the same, whatever your friends say (although you will need a better sling than something like the Bjorn or it will knacker your back).

Tash1519 - I could only get DS to nap by bf before I went back to work, but he napped well at nursery from the beginning (in fact they say he's one of their best nappers). Different behaviour in different environments...

Tash1519 · 08/09/2008 19:17

thanks for all your responses - really good to know i'm not alone. I have an ergo baby carrier.

Portandlemon thanks for the note how old was your ds when you went back to work?

chrysostomus · 15/09/2008 23:13

yup, you're definitely not alone.....my 4 month old DS refuses to sit for more than exactly 4 minutes in his stroller before screaming like Satan's in there with him . He's the same way in the car. Hoping he'll enjoy it more when he can face forward in both. Till then, it's sling city. I find the "Over the Shoulder Baby Holder" much more comfy than the Bjorn, & my hubby likes to wear it too! Also, I have heard great things about the Ergo (front carrier) and Baby Bundler (wrap/sling). Best of luck (& patience)!

NatLex · 07/10/2008 08:55

my son was never really keen on his pram. First, I think he wanted to be in upright position, so things improved once he could sit in a pram (about 5-6 months), then there was not enough room, so we got a wider pram (Maclaren)and once he was around 10-11 months, we got him a trike, which he loves and prefers it to the pram. It have something to do with not being constraint and strapped in. He like his space. Now he is 14 months and sometimes wants to go in the pram himself afte running around, which is the first. I think just observe your baby and see what he/she is trying to tell you and get whatever is more comfortable. Might take a few tries, but you will work it out eventually, plus they are changing all the time.
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annyd · 19/04/2011 20:28

Obviously these posts are from a few years ago so your babies are now not babies. I have a 9 month old who refuses to go in the pushchair so I carry her in baby bjorn and have an ergo on order. I am happy to carry her for as long as needed but just wondered what the outcome was for you all? Did you just carry until they could walk or did the grow to like the pram?

zayla · 21/04/2011 06:50

Same here - another sling user although DS is now getting better in the pram, I've started to find the sling more convenient most of the time. Can you put DS down on a playmat on his back for a while? i.e. is it the pram or just being put down? Also I found that it is important to put our DS in the pram gently and talk to him as I'm doing it. If I'm in a rush to get out then I found myself plonking him down in it which unsurprisingly he doesn't like!

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