7 month old still feeding every 4 fours in the night!!

[Knakard]

And i am bloody exhausted!

Im back at work full time now and cant keep doing this. Any advice really greatfully welcomed.

Ds id nearly 7 months and typically goes to bed at 7.30pm wakes for a feed at 11ish then 2/3am then again at 5/6am then wakes for the day at 8.30 am.

Im well aware that at this age he doesnt really need to eat this often. He is capable of self settling as at 7.30 he has a milk feed and goes down awake and settles himself to sleep. (i though once he learned this the rest of the nght would get better).

And he is not neccesarrily feeding back to sleep quite often he feeds and again goes down awake and self settles. On odd night he misses one or more of these feeds but not very often.

I really didnt want to let him CIO but in the end last night at his 2am one i offered water and tryed to avoid feeding him but finally caved in at 3.30am when he was still crying!!!!

Are you breastfeeding? Does he sleep with you?

DD still feeds in the night but as she is in our bed we barely stir.

Yes i am breatfeeding, god coulndt face making up bottles as well!!

No he is in his own bed as Dh some times suffers fits in the night so cant have him in with us.

I wouldn't consider that unusual.
Why not bring the cot into your room?

Dh had a bash at it to last night and had as little success as me! Question is do i just bite the bullet and ride out the crying? an hour and a half seemed really excessive, however there were not real tears more of just an angry shouty cry!!!
By that point dh was saying just feed him he is obviously starving if he is still crying now but i dont see how he could be 3 hours after a feed!

Our bedroom is tiny, there was bearly room for the moses basket let alone a cot, also i get up to pee 5/6 time a night (odd i know) and when he was in with us he found this very disruptive. Am i expecting too much to soon then, do they need to feed this often at this age?

bump for any suggestions.

Errr...probably. (Not to say I don't sympathise. Combining that with a job is hard work. I did it myself and my dh was abroad for 6 weeks at a time.)

Oddly, am also one who gets up to use the loo countless times a night. I figured that i was waking anyway to go fro a wee so never felt resentful for the baby as i never sleep through anyway.

I let them get to 12 mths before curbing the midnight snacks.

Hi, Knakard, sympathies as I've just seen an improvement with my 7mo in the last week, but was exactly where you were - can't believe we've made such good progress in such a short time. I bought Andrea Grace's book on teaching your child to sleep and have cut night feeds right back and taught her to self settle all in one week! How long is your lo feeding at each feed? She suggests cutting it down to 5mins per feed for 2 nights, then 3mins for 2 nights, then stopping. We haven't stopped yet - too weak!! But previously my dd was feeding for 20-30mins a time, so huge progress for us.

We leave them till after 12 months before curbing the midnight snacks too Moondog, but by them them are usually dropping them off by themselves anyway.

Lol at the making up the bottles Knakard. Always said I was too much of a lazy tart to bottle feed

I wonder if he's waking becuase he is hungry or because he is just used to having a feed if he wakes.

Can you try upping the amount of food he has during the day? Is he a good eater?

Thanks for all the suggestions! i think im gonna go with moondog and needsomesleep on this one and leave it a bit. to be honest i think it was become more frustrating because everyone seemed to be saying to me that he should be sleeping through by now and that im spoiling him, i dont think im really ready to make him stop. oh well i guess dh will just have to keep getting up in the morning at the weekend and let me have a lie in! (what a shame).

My 7mo is exactly the same. Same times even. I have wondered if its because now, like you I am back at work he is catching up on lots of feeds at night. I don't mind too much as I am keen to keep on bf and I don't see him in the day. So no help but a bit of empathy!

Thanks, think that is part of it when he doesnt see me much in the day i think he wakes at night cuz he knows ill be the one who goes to him.
Having said that last night he went 7.30 till 2am then 2 till 7.30am whoop!!

Hi
My 7 month is exactly the same - he has plenty to eat and I bf a lot during the day. He could not settle himself and would need bf to sleep. We are doing the pick up put down method and even slept in the front room for a week. He is getting better, but will not give up his 3am and 5am feeds. I am trying to cut down the length of the feed - but difficult when you doze off