14 week old used to go to sleep on own now cries and wants to go sleep on me help

[nik76]

Hi I have been following EASY and baby was so good defo textbook baby. it does seem that since she started going through the night AND had her first jabs (both happened at once) she doesn't like to go to sleep herself at night. For day time naps she will protest a bit but half hearted really, but at night it's now the worst we've had. Last night she didn;t go to sleep till 9:30, she's had feed at 6pm, play, bath (after 7), massage and the top up feed but would not go down. She is a thumb sucker and has always used this to get to sleep but she just doesn't do this now to get off to begin with although I know when she wakes throughout the night she does.

I just feel like I am losing it, she has also woken in the night a couple of times recently for a feed.

Any advice welcome.

she is still so tiny, and there is no such thing as a textbook baby. I know it is so hard but they really have no notion of time at this age. It is probably just a phase or reaction to the jabs, growth spurt, coming down with something. It sounds like a phase of some sort I would just go with it and keep up your bedtime routine which sounds great, if she does not go down keep things calm and dark until she does.

Thanks for that have just had her weighed and she has put on almost a pound in a week

that is fab. She is healthy!

think it feels more of a problem because she's be so good up to now, will chill out about it.

My ds did the same thing at about the same age. Where he would always settle himself off to sleep in his cot no probs, he wasnt having any of it especially worse at bed time. He was fine again after a week or so, hopefully yours will be the same!

As my health vistor discribed it they go through dark phases where then turn into different babys, one of which is around the 15 week mark!

Thanks dissnbump I'll look forward to that!!!!!

I did the worst thing possible last night, feed her and let her go to sleep on me and when she was well away put her in the cot and she didn't wake up. I know its not good but just couldn't face all that screaming when it was hot again last night.

She woke at 4:45 for a feed, hoping cuase its hot but that 3 nights out of 4 she's woken in the night for a feed. It can't be cause she wants solids can it?!?!?!

no she isn;t ready for solids. There is a massive growth spurt at 4/5 months. andmany babies start waking and feeding more at this point. I really wouldn't worry about bad habits at this age - if cuddling her gets her to sleep then do it!

AM I not just making trouble for later??

I ahve resisted all the cuddling I hvae wanted to do - think I only managed it cause am breast feeding so get some throught hat.

oh no don't resist cuddling at sleeptime, she will settle better with cuddles! No such thing as bad habits for such a tiny baby really.

oh ok if you all insist

Hi I have a similar problem to nik but my DD is a bit older at 6 months. She used to settle in her cot at bedtime (7.30pm) with no problems but over the last 3 weeks it as been a real struggle. She starts crying as soon as I leave the room. I think it may be because life is just too exciting now and she thinks she is missing out!

After much running up and down the stairs, I have got into the (bad) habit of picking her up and bringing her downstairs to BF. I don't think hunger is the issue but it is the only way to get her to settle and go to sleep.

I know I am really lucky to have a baby who generally sleeps through the night and some mums woul love if this was their only sleep problem but any advice would be welcome.

me and hubby have this 'discussion' every time and i refuse no matter what - one thing i like about coming on here it proves everyone has the same fights as us!!!!

Its getting worse last night didn't go sleep till after 9 and the night before it was 10:30pm. Hoping its still this phase at around 15 weeks that was mentioned and she'll soon settle back into it.

My 14 week old started having crying fits at 'bedtime' and we would try and get him to sleep by all sorts of methods but then realised he wasn't actually tired at his usual time anymore and just wanted to play etc for a bit longer. He now settles down to sleep at about 9.30pm without any fuss (ofcourse this could change at any minute!) but maybe your LO just needs to go to bed a bit later than she used to..?

Also, it is only recently that my ds will sleep on his own, I used to have to let him sleep on me or cuddle him to sleep and try and put him down without waking him, but he's grown out of this himself so I wouldn't worry about too much cuddling.

Well let her go to sleep on the pillow when finshed BF and then put her down still asleep in cot and got away with it!!!